1. Feel Like A Fraud? 9 Signs of Impostor Syndrome

    Many high-achievers share a dirty little secret: deep down they feel like complete frauds.

    They worry that they’ll be exposed as untalented fakers and say their accomplishmentshave been due to luck.

    This psychological phenomenon, known as Impostor Syndrome, reflects is the core belief that you are an inadequate, incompetent, and a failure — despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and successful.

    Impostor Syndrome makes people feel like an intellectual fraud, rendering them unable to internalize — let alone celebrate — their achievements. Studies have shown this lack of self-belief is correlated with anxiety, low confidence, and self-sabotage.

    From a psychological standpoint, Impostor Syndrome may be influenced by certain factors early in life, particularly the development of certain beliefs and attitude towards success and one’s self-worth.

    Let’s take a look at exactly what thoughts run through the minds of people with Impostor Syndrome.

    Do any of these apply to you?

    1. “I’m a fake and I’m going to be found out.”

    People with Impostor Syndrome believe they don’t deserve success.

    They may believe about themselves, “I can give the impression that I’m more competent than I really am” or “I’m afraid my colleagues will discover how little I really know.” They fear being unmasked and having their perceived phoniness revealed.

    Feeling as if they just narrowly escaped professional catastrophe time and time again creates a constant feeling of stress and anxiety that can color all of their work and relationships in a damaging way.

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  2. Ace Your Next Interview With These Subtle Body Language Tricks

    You’ve rehearsed every interview question in the book. Your suit is dry-cleaned. Your bag is stocked with extra pens, just in case. You seem to have all the pieces in place. Now the anxiety starts to build.

    How do you knock an employer’s socks off once you enter the gauntlet?

    In today’s competitive market, it’s not enough to have a great cover letter and pristine resume. Most job seekers make the mistake of devoting too much time to prepping documents and tweaking their elevator speech, while neglecting one important fact: the body conveys the strongest messages of all.

    substantial portion of our communication is done through non-verbal behavior and micro expressions—subtleties that we notice and evaluate in our subconscious. In fact, only a small percentage of the brain processes verbal communication. So if you want to ace a tough job interview, it’s essential to master the unspoken dynamics at play.

    Hiring managers are not only listening to a candidate’s answers, they’re observing how you carry yourself, too. As body language expert Patti Wood explains, “A candidate can give out thousands of cues within the first minute…and those messages make more of an impact than what you say during the interview.”

    Even if you have been job hunting for a while, here a few moves that can pep up your approach. These seemingly small actions can have a big impact on employers and give you the slight edge over other job seekers.

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  3. My Top 10 Blog Posts of 2017

    The year is quickly drawing to a close. In the spirit of holiday time reflection, I thought it would be fun to take a look at my top 10 blog posts from 2017.  Without further ado, here’s a round-up of my most popular posts from this past year. Enjoy!

    1. Change Negative Thoughts That Limit Your Success
    2. Stop Fighting Your Inner Critic For Good
    3. How To Speak Confidently in Meetings (Even If You’re Anxious)
    4. How to Manage Your Friends (Without Making It Awkward)
    5. 5 Signs You’re Making The Wrong Career Move
    6. Life-Changing Ways To Use Sensitivity As a Strength at Work
    7. Come From a ‘Dysfunctional’ Family? You’d Make a Great Entrepreneur
    8. How To Make Yourself Indispensable (In Business and Life)
    9. Train Your Brain to Be More Positive — Here’s How
    10. Try This Mind Trick To Deal With Annoying Co-Workers

    Here’s to a happy, healthy, and successful 2018!

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  4. Reading List: My Favorite Books of 2017

    I’m a non-fiction book junkie. I read about a book a week. I’m often asked for book recommendations from clients and readers, which is why today I’m sharing a handful of great titles that earned a spot at the top of my list this year.

    While it’s hard to pick only a few favorites, the books below stand out above the rest because (1) the ideas were deeply thought-provoking, or (2) because the concepts transformed some part of my life and business. I limited my selection to books published in 2017 for the purposes of this post to help with narrowing it down.

    The topics run the gamut from career and business advice to psychology, productivity and self improvement so my hope is that there’s something for everyone, regardless of where you’re at in your life right now.

    Just a heads up, some of the links below are Amazon affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, I will get a commission (at no additional cost to you).

    Now in no particular order, my favorite books of 2017.

    The Best Books of 2017

    The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People’s Lives Better, Too) by Gretchen Rubin

    Are you an Upholder, Obliger, Rebel, or Questioner? The answer to that question will tell you a lot about how you react to both internal and external expectations–and the insights can be life-changing.

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  5. Boost the Odds of Achieving Your Goals With This 1 Simple Shift

    The New Year is right around the corner and with year-end planning underway, you’re probably mapping out what you want to accomplish in the next 12 months ahead.

    Whether you’re resolving to leave your dead-end job, speak up more in meetings or finally get started on the side projects you’ve been putting off, there’s one indisputable truth that’s impossible to ignore: change is hard.

    Nearly one-half of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but just 8% follow-through and accomplish their goals.

    Most of us are familiar with the cycle: You’re jazzed in January only to find yourself derailed and demotivated within a few weeks. You beat yourself up for failing to achieve your full potential despite your best intentions.

    But creating deep, lasting change is less about willpower and more about designing smart, effective goals.

    You don’t have to settle for average for yet another year. Try this new method to set New Year’s resolutions that create real results.

    Turn Resolutions Into Questions

    Asking questions and then answering them–instead of making statements–is a more effective method for sticking to your promises, research finds.

    Enter: the “Questolution“.

    Instead of pledging to start a business in the New Year, it would be more effective to ask “How might I go about getting my first client?” or “What commitments might prevent me from going all in?”

    This type of solution-oriented inquiry has been shown to produce consistent, significant changes in a variety of contexts from exercise and eating healthier to voting and gender stereotyping.

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  6. What Your Arguments Over Money Are Really About (And How To Resolve Financial Fights)

    Money can be a loaded topic, especially when business, family and finances mix. It’s one of the biggest sources of relationship problems—and it can be the toughest to resolve.

    Throughout the course of any partnership, butting heads over spending and saving habits is to be expected. Couples can face financial rough patches that are more emotionally complex than deciding whether to splurge on take-out this week. When this happens, it can feel overwhelming and affect your ability to focus at work and home.

    That’s because money fights are rarely about dollars and cents. They’re usually a conflict of values, morals and family traditions or a battle over independence, control or security.

    Here are some tips for navigating tricky situations where family and finances mix.

    Scenario: A family member hasn’t paid back a loan, and your partner is furious.

    Disagreements over how much to support a relative can rupture trust between partners and create a loyalty struggle. One person may see helping a relative as a duty, while the other sees it as inappropriately bailing them out.

    This can create triangulation—a toxic relationship pattern that pits you against your partner. To cope, you may avoid having conversations about money with your spouse or starting lying about additional funds you lend your family member, which only makes the situation worse.

    How to Deal

    Speak to the family member in question directly, as a team. If the money lent is jointly shared with your partner, give them the seat at the table they deserve.

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