I help smart, sensitive high-achievers overcome insecurity and overwhelm so they can thrive in the workplace.
My clients say these exact words to me all the time.
You’re driven to succeed. But because you process information more deeply than others, you’re more susceptible to stress, emotional overwhelm, and overthinking.
This combination of sensitivity and ambition can be tricky. And it makes common workplace situations – like getting feedback and trusting your judgment– even more challenging.
The good news is that sensitivity, combined with a strong drive to achieve, can also make you a powerhouse performer.
The research proves it: managers consistently rate people with higher sensitivity as their top contributors.
The key is learning to manage your emotional responses in more productive ways.
As former gold-star students, Sensitive Strivers love a fun quiz. To find out if you fit the profile, click below to check off the sentences that sound like you:
If you checked off 6 or more of the boxes, you can confidently call yourself a Sensitive Striver. And know this:
It’s possible to enjoy success without the stress, self-doubt and overwhelm you’re experiencing right now.
All my life, I was the classic A+, gold-star, “good girl” who lived to exceed expectations. I worked hard to earn high grades in school, graduated at the top of my college class while balancing multiple jobs, and got a Masters in Social Work from Columbia University.
I went on to secure a laudable role as a researcher at a fast-paced healthcare center in Upper Manhattan, and from the outside, it looked like I had it all: A great job in a big city, an upward career trajectory, a steady stream of accomplishments…
You couldn’t tell that, on the inside, I was a mess. Constant stress left me frazzled, restless, and emotionally depleted. And rather than seeing my emotional state for what it was – a sign that something was off – I felt like a failure.
Everyone else seemed to be so confident and in control. Why couldn’t I get it together? What was wrong with me?
I kept pushing, trying to compensate for my insecurities, until I hit a wall.
I was so burned out I spent my weekends in bed, too drained to do anything else. I had heart palpitations and constant nightmares. And I felt like an empty shell of a person, far from my driven, empathetic self I once knew.
My burnout forced me to step back and take a hard look at the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that had brought me to that point.
During the previous three years, I had slowly been building a coaching practice based on my training in counseling and psychology. And now I had no choice but to use the tools I used with my clients on myself.
When I began to examine the root of my insecurities and to unravel my self-sabotaging habits, I realized that the problem wasn’t that I was a failure.
The problem was that I had allowed other people’s expectations to consume me and override my intuition. Over and over again, I had ignored my well-being and personal ambitions in favor of goals I assumed I should pursue.
By working with my coaching clients, I discovered that many others struggle with problems like overthinking, emotional reactivity, perfectionism, and poor boundaries – to name a few.
At first, I didn’t have a name for this group of people who were naturally more sensitive and driven. But I knew that traditional career advice wouldn’t be enough for them to grasp and harness the power of their built-in sensitivities.
As I reconnected with my core values and dreams, I found the desire to support this group. And from there, I started taking the steps that eventually led to me to expanding my coaching practice.
Since then, I’ve helped hundreds of sensitive, high-achievers get out of their own way, master their sensitivity, and discover ways to enjoy success – however they define it – without stress and emotional overwhelm.
I can’t wait to help you too.
Being sensitive is your biggest source of strength. You should use that gift daily.
Success is an inside job. Inner work is the ultimate competitive edge.
Strive to succeed without the weight of the unreasonable expectations of perfectionism.
You can have strong boundaries without being mean or people hating you.
Change is the result of incremental growth and action, not quantum leaps and wishful positivity.
Your worth isn’t measured by how busy you are. Choose intentional productivity over the chase of busy.
Stop doubting yourself and reclaim what success means to you with one-on-one coaching:
Melody Wilding is the Workplace Success Coach for smart, sensitive high-achievers who are tired of getting in their own way.
Through her private one-on-one coaching program, talks, small-group workshops, and articles, she’s here to help you break free from self-doubt and overwhelm, master your emotions, and use your sensitivity as the superpower that it is.
As a coach, she’s helped hundreds of CEOs, executives, and top-performers at the world’s most successful companies. Her work has been featured on The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, NBC News, and dozens of other high-profile publications.
Melody is a Sensitive Striver herself, a licensed social worker with a Masters degree from Columbia University, and a former researcher at Rutgers University. She teaches Human Behavior at Hunter College and is a columnist for magazines such as Inc. and Forbes.
When she’s not helping professionals thrive at the workplace, you’ll find Melody listening to podcasts and geeking out over all things productivity, habits, and psychology.
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