1. How to Tell Your Boss You Have Too Much Work

    Busy periods are inevitable at any job. While stress can be manageable in the short term, if you don’t take steps to keep the pressure under control, it can lead to fatigue and burnout. Burnout refers to a collection of different physical, emotional, and mental reactions that occur in response to prolonged stress and overworking.

    Signs of burnout include:

    • Physical symptoms such as exhaustion most of the time, headaches, and muscle aches
    • Getting sick often
    • A negative attitude about work or your career
    • Feeling like everything is overwhelming or your efforts are futile
    • Neglecting your own needs, as if you’re a pushover
    • Withdrawing from new responsibilities, challenges, and people
    • Procrastinating, mainly avoidance or work or it taking long because you can’t concentrate
    • Short tempered, especially with colleagues
    • Difficulty sticking to regular self-care (i.e. exercise, eating well, etc.)
    • Loss of motivation and optimism

    While there’s nothing wrong with caring about your career, problems arise when work controls your feelings and behaviors. If you slip into the realm of burn out, it can take months, weeks, or even years to lift yourself out. That’s why it’s important to take proactive steps to manage the problem, starting with speaking to your boss about your workload.

    Here are a few tips for telling your manager when you have too much on your plate:

    1. Don’t enable workaholic behavior

    Reporting to someone who expects you to skip lunch and answer emails at all hours can be challenging, to say the least. 

  2. Handle Annoying Co-Workers Using These 3 Strategies

    Every workplace is filled with interesting personalities – including frustrating ones.

    If you feel like you’re surrounded by difficult people at the office, take heart, because you’re not alone. Studies have found that one in eight people leave a job due to problems with co-workers.

    Since we spend more time at work than at home (and considering quitting tomorrow isn’t an option for most people) it’s worthwhile to figure out ways to get along.

    Positive coping strategies may not only save your sanity, but they can also improve your well-being more than complaining ever will. In fact, learning to deal with difficult people can be a powerful way to develop your leadership skills.

    Type 1: The co-worker who hits you up on Slack to chat about office politics.

    Gossip is a compensatory strategy often used to cover low-self esteem or feelings of powerlessness. It’s likely your co-worker is communicating this way–albeit passively aggressively and manipulatively–to seek connection.

    Nonetheless, hanging around gossiping co-workers is energy draining. Plus, getting embroiled in rumor-mongering can damage your professional reputation.

    To disengage from this toxic cycle, use a simple formula: empathize and redirect.

    First validate your co-worker, letting them know they’re being heard. By saying something like “Ugh, it is frustrating to feel confused”, you’re not agreeing with or justifying their behavior, you’re simply mirroring how they feel without getting involved or talking about other people. Your focus is on them, which is probably their favorite subject anyway.

  3. How To Plan Your Most Productive Day In 10 Minutes or Less

    If you’re like me, you have a growing to-do list filled with big ideas to accomplish. Yet it might often seem like the day quickly gets away from you. Meetingsemails, social media, and other distractions suck up your time, along with your precious attention.

    Winning the day begins before you even sit down at your desk.

    Thoughtful planning and prioritization is the best way to play defense against the many tasks vying for your focus. Building in the opportunity for reflection, while difficult, is an instant productivity booster, allowing you to get more done in less time with greater impact.

    On a recent episode of the Accidental Creative podcast, author Todd Henry shared a simple 10-minute method you can use to optimize your schedule and create mental bandwidth for deep, creative work.

    He suggests sitting down at the beginning of the day to strategize, specifically following these steps:

    1. Ask yourself: At the end of the day, what would have to happen for me to say, “Today was a success?”

    Henry says, “Time is the currency of productivity, especially for creative professionals,” so make sure (to the extent possible) that your day effectively leverages your strengths, fulfills your values, satisfies important goals, and is filled with tasks or people that energize you.

    2. Define the problems you need to solve today.

    Doing this allows you to work backward and create a plan of attack, ensuring that you spend your time wisely in high-impact ways.

  4. If We Were Having Coffee Right Now, This Is What I’d Tell You

    It’s been a while since I shared a personal update. When I last caught up with you, I recently moved and summer was just beginning. Now that the New Year has come and gone, I thought it’d be a good time to sit down and fill you in on interesting things happening with me.

    Here’s what I would tell you if we were sitting down together over a cup of coffee:

    If we were having coffee today…I’d tell you that we’re just about finished moving in…nine months later (they say it takes a full year, right?). I adore working from my new office. It’s light, bright, and I now have an Uplift Desk. It’s magical. Previously, I used to stand for about 40 minutes a day, but now I stand for about 5-6 hours each work day. Make sure you’re following me on Instagram because I’ll be sharing photos of the new space soon.

    If we were having coffee today…I’d tell you that I’ve been gradually shifting to all natural personal care products as part of an overall goal to improve my health. I never realized how many harmful chemicals lurk in everyday skin and body items or the extent to which they could screw with your hormones, mental health and more. Recently I switched to aloe deodorant, switched to sulfate-free shampoo, and added a DIY apple cider vinegar toner to my regimen.

    If we were having coffee today…I’d tell you that lately, I’ve been thinking about ways to streamline my time more effectively.

  5. Is Your Work A Job, Career, or Calling? Here’s the Difference

    Many of us find ourselves trapped in jobs that we do not particularly enjoy or connect with on any level. Maybe you followed the rest of your family into medical or legal careers when what you really wanted to launch your own business or to work in the arts. Or perhaps you took a role because it sounded like a “logical” choice. Whatever the case, it can be disappointing to feel like your job does little other than provide a paycheck.

    Most of the coaching clients I work with seek the ultimate dream job. They want a role that is not only emotionally and financially satisfying, but one where they can also have an impact. In other words, they want to find their calling.

    Meaningful work is important to almost everyone, regardless of what that work entails. Luckily, research suggests that experiencing your work as a calling instead of “just a job” largely comes down to changing your perspective.

    If you find yourself unsatisfied with your work-life, here’s how you can move toward the meaningful experience you crave.

    Job, Career or Calling – What’s the Difference?

    Dr. Amy Wrzesniewski, a professor at Yale School of Management, has spent her career researching how individuals identify with their work. She has established three different, defined contexts of work: job, career and calling.

    • Job: A job provides you with pay, benefits and perhaps some social perks. It’s primarily about earning that paycheck. People in this category are typically more invested in their lives outside of the office.
  6. New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work. Try This Instead.

    January is right around the corner and right now you’re probably mapping out what you want to achieve in the year ahead. Whether you’re resolving to get a promotion, start on side projects you’ve put off, or finally making six-figures, one fact remains: change is hard.

    No where is this more apparent than in the high failure rate of New Year’s resolutions. Nearly one-half of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but only 8 percent follow-through and accomplish their goals.

    Why? Humans are creatures of habit. We make excuses as to why we can’t take action, saying we’re too busy, don’t have enough money, or lack the right network. Imposter Syndrome creeps in when we set our ambitions sky high (“Who am I to think I can raise my prices?).

    Turn Resolutions into Questolutions

    Psychology offers a way to short-circuit excuses and mental resistance on the way to accomplishing your goals: Turn your resolution into a “questolution.”  That is, make your goal into a puzzle that your brain will inherently want to solve by turning it into a question. For example, “I will make six-figures this year” becomes “How might I make six-figures this year?”

    It’s a subtle shift, but a powerful one. Research shows that asking people a question about performing a target behavior (a goal) positively influences future performance of that behavior by as much as 25 to 28 percent.

    Why does this question-behavior effect work? “If you question a person about performing a future behavior, the likelihood of that behavior happening will change,” says David Sprott, senior dean of the Carson College Business, Washington State University.

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