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  1. Day In The Life: Simple Ways To Turn A Bad Day Around

    Let’s talk about bad days, because we all have them.

    Being a millennial entrepreneur comes with it’s fair share of emotional ups and downs. Some days your energy is high. Your creativity is on fire.

    Other days? You find yourself in a motivational slump, wondering where that inspiration and focus disappeared to.

    Recently I had one of those frustrating “off days.” My mood was low, my brain was foggy, and my inner critic was seriously acting up. Maybe you can relate. We’ve all been there at one time or another.

    In the interest of having more honest conversations about work-life balance, happiness, and what it’s really like to be part of the side-hustle generation, I want to share how I lift myself out of a rut and rebound from a bad day.

    The David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a great place to spend a few hours working in NYC

    The David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a great place to spend a few hours working in NYC

    When I’m feeling overwhelmed or uninspired, I first shift something in my surroundings. There’s science behind this seemingly simplistic approach: It’s been shown that a change of environment stimulates creativity. Luckily in New York City there’s no shortage of quirky, wifi-enabled places to work like the David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a spot that a friend recently turned me on to.

    When I step away from distractions and give myself space to think, my best work comes out.

    When I step away from distractions and give myself space to think, my best work comes out.

    The mind is like a muscle: it requires careful maintenance or it’ll eventually be pushed beyond its limit sending you into burnout territory.
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  2. 6 Signs Your Obsession With Productivity Is Hurting You

    6 Signs You’re A Productivity Addict

    Google “productivity” and you’re served up almost 18 million search results.

    Dive in and you’ll find blogs, websites, apps, op-eds, subreddits, consulting firms, podcasts and scientific studies devoted to the art of efficiency.

    Our obsession in modern society with doing more is rivaled only by our preoccupation with doing more harder, better, faster and stronger. We’re gunning the engines at max speed, cramming our work days full of tasks, then feeling guilty if we steal a quick second to call a friend or read a book for pure pleasure (gasp!).

    Here’s the irony: compulsion over productivity can do more harm than good.

    Addiction to productivity is a real thing—similiar to a dependence on a substance or food that leads to maladaptive behavior. Clinically speaking, addiction occurs when someone is engages in something that’s pleasurable, but the continued use or act becomes compulsive to the point of interfering with normal life responsibilities (work, relationships or health). To make matters worse, an addict may not be aware that his or her behavior is out of control.

    If you think you’re sliding into an addiction to productivity, here are a few questions to ask yourself:

    6 Signs You’re A Productivity Addict

    • Are you acutely aware of when you are “wasting” time? Do you beat yourself up for it?
    • Are you reliant on technology to optimize your time management?
    • Is your #1 topic of conversation how “crazy busy” you are?
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  3. The One Reason You Shouldn’t Obsess Over Your Mistakes

    The One Reason You Shouldn't Obsess Over Your Mistakes

    You know how when you trip walking down the street, it feels like the entire cityscape of people is staring at you in amusement? Or when you’ve worn the same pair of pants three times in one week, you’re completely paranoid your colleagues are judging you for your lack of fashion sense (or cleanliness)? What about when you fumble over your words in a presentation, and then can’t stop thinking about how every person in the room now thinks you’re a terrible speaker?

    As human beings with an ego and an innate self-awareness of our own feelings, actions and thoughts, we tend to notice and greatly exaggerate our flaws while assuming everyone around us has a microscope focused on faults, mistakes and slip-ups. In truth, other people don’t notice them nearly as much as we assume. Why? Because they’re too busy noticing and greatly exaggerating their own flaws!

    This strange phenomenon is what’s known in psychology circles as the spotlight effect. You’re the center of your own world, and everyone else is the center of his or her’s. If you’re someone who sets high standards for yourself, your errors probably feel really difficult to move past. You might play your mistake on an endless internal feedback loop like a cinematographer in the editing room. Or maybe you talk through every facet of it with your significant other, best friend or a colleague over and over until you’re making them crazy, too.

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  4. How To Get Your Significant Other On Board With Your Bold Career Goals

    Does the idea of selling something to someone you love sound sleazy or conjure up images of a salesman with a greasy mustache and bad suit promising low, low prices on used cars?

    We tend to confine our thinking about sales to business contexts – and more often than not it’s something we seek to avoid or shy away from.

    But think back to the last time you put your best influencer skills to work, whether that was convincing your colleagues to take a new direction on a project, demonstrating your experience in an interview or pitching a startup idea. Chances are, you’ve developed some pretty good sales skills over the years.

    In reality, sales is crucial for more than pushing used cars or hocking the latest as-seen-on-TV product. You can leverage this essential skill to success not only professionally, but also in your personal relationships. Whether you want to win over investors, land a job or organize a team you have to persuade others to support your vision or dream – and this same principle of motivation holds for romantic partnerships as well.

    As you chase your dreams, it’s important to “sell” your partner on the positive aspects of  change if you’d like them to come along on the journey with you. You can’t expect another person to read your mind, but chances are, if they have a clear sense of your needs and objectives, they’ll be your biggest cheerleader.

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  5. Day In The Life: The Morning Rituals That Power My Productivity

    Women@Forbes new Day In the Life’ series gives an insider’s view into the lives of women entrepreneurs. In this series, I’ll be giving a behind-the-scenes look at everything from the people, places, and projects that inspire me to the apps, productivity tips, and stress-reducing tricks I can’t live without.

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    My typical weekday starts at sunrise. I’m up and out of bed between 5 a.m. and 6 a.m. Growing up, I was a night owl, however, as I’ve matured, I’ve come to cherish the tranquil, meditative quality of mornings. Waking up early ahead of the hustle and bustle centers me and creates positive momentum that propels me throughout the day.

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    Within the first 30 minutes of waking up I mix up a protein shake and hydrate with warm water and lemon. Breakfast is usually a quick slow-carb meal of eggs and greens, which stabilizes my blood sugar and gives me the energy I need to tackle my highest priority projects before lunch.

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    Before heading to the gym or out for a run, I filter my inbox. Taming my messages gives me a productivity boost. I clear out clutter and process anything that can be done within two minutes. It’s a quick win that frees my mind and lets me fully enjoy my workout.

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    In a time when mentors are important to have but hard to find, I look to the authors and thought leaders I follow as part of my virtual “brain trust,” contributing to my ongoing career development.

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  6. Being Multipassionate Doesn’t Make You a Failure. It Makes You Indispensable – Here’s Why

    One of the most significant generational differences between millennials and older colleagues is the contrasting mindset around career path.

    Not so long ago, the average employee joined a company out of college, worked his or her way up from entry level to middle ground and eventually joined the upper echelons of management, hardly stopping to give outside organizations a second glance. There was a much more linear development of career growth, which also included now-mythical concepts like pensions and six weeks of accrued PTO.

    Career paths today are much less straightforward. What’s the longest you’ve stayed in the same role? If it’s no more than 2-4 years, you’re not alone. What about your bio on Twitter? You’ve probably listed multiple professional identifiers, as many millennials do. Do you have more than one business card? Maybe one for your full-time gig and one for your side hustle?

    Whether it’s “actor/playwright/freelance writer,” “lawyer/journalist,” “copywriter/coder/career coach,” or some other hybrid combo, many millennials have embraced what’s been called the “Slash Career“. More and more people are choosing to take more creative, self-directed routes to success, breaking old norms and rules in the process.

    Why exactly has the Slash Career become such a trend? For one thing, so much work can now be done portably and remotely. You can log nine hours a day at an office, then come home and plug away at your side job from your laptop. Plus, the idea that career can bring you fulfillment and meaning in your life – in contrast to a formerly utilitarian approach to work – is much more widespread.

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