Master your psychology with therapeutic insights for your life, relationships, & career
  1. FREE WORKBOOK: Change Negative Thoughts That Limit Your Success

    Why do some of the most intelligent people sabotage their own success? It all goes back to unconscious every day thoughts, also called cognitive distortions, first identified by psychologist Aaron Beck and Dr. David Burns.

    It’s typical to fall into these irrational thoughts every now and then. Mindset missteps are common among even the brightest, most well-meaning people. We can all relate to that feeling of sometimes getting in our own way.  It’s simply part of being human, an evolutionary response designed to keep you safe and protected.

    Nevertheless, irrational thoughts can get in your way of success and taking necessary, healthy risks. For example, your inner critic may tell you you’re not good enough and that you’ll most definitely fail. Cognitive distortions also complicate our relationships. You project that your boss is upset when you make a mistake or worry about how your friends and family perceive you.

    The good news is that you can develop the necessary self-awareness to spot and change irrational thoughts. With a little discipline, you can retrain your thinking. You can gradually modify your self-talk to be more balanced, resilient, and supportive to help you reach your goals and tackle the toughest situations. Recognizing unhelpful thoughts as illogical and impermanent is an important first step to letting go of the stress they bring:

    Here’s a look at the most common cognitive distortions defined by Burns, along with examples of ways it may pop up in your life and work. 

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  2. 5 Signs You’re Making The Wrong Career Move

    Most of the choices we make every day are simple and straight-forward: what to wear to work, what to eat for lunch, whether to go to sleep at a reasonable hour or stay up watching Netflix. They don’t cause much stress or inner conflict.

    Career transition points, on the other hand, can leave you feeling significantly more stuck—especially when you’re facing a big, life-changing decisions.

    Should you take that promotion? Move to a different city? Transition to a new industry? Launch a business or take your side hustle full-time?

    Decision-making is tough, particularly when there may not be one “right” answer. Despite your best efforts, it’s not always clear what to do next. How do you know whether you’re heading in the right direction, or about to make a bad career move you’ll regret?

    Here are five tell-tale signs you’re about to make a career misstep–and how to get back on track to finding work you love.

    1. You have a sense of foreboding.

    Just about everyone has experienced a feeling that something is “off” or a sense of dread they can’t shake. Does that sensation creep up when you think about the new opportunity?

    Maybe you didn’t feel much of a connection with the new team you’d potentially be working with when you met them. Or perhaps you’re starting to worry about relocation costs and not as willing to take a pay cut as you first thought.

    Although most of us come equipped with a sense of intuition when something doesn’t feel right, we also have plenty of ways to rationalize these feelings away and ultimately discount them. 

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  3. Train Your Brain to Be More Positive — Here’s How

    The entrepreneurs I work with tend to have a few things in common: they are smart, ambitious, and highly motivated. Most of them are also stressed to the max.

    From the outside, they appear powerful and poised. But on the inside, they worry about their ability to deal with the demands that come along with having a successful career.

    If you’re a top-performer, you can probably relate. In fact, statistics show pressure at work is the leading source of chronic stress among American adults. Having confidence in your ability to conquer challenges is essential to thriving in today’s business world.

    The good news is that this brand of mental resiliency can be cultivated with practice.

    The Power of Explanatory Style

    Each of us has our own explanatory style–a way we explain why good or bad things happen.

    Research by positive psychology expert Martin Seligman finds that people generally fall into two categories:

    1. Entrepreneurs with a pessimistic explanatory style tend to blame themselves when things go wrong and see negative events as both permanent and pervasive.
    2. Those with an optimistic explanatory style view setbacks as temporary and solvable. Because they have faced challenges before, they have confidence in their ability to do it again. They see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

    Honing your psychological resiliency can be a valuable business asset. Those with a positive explanatory style are more successful. They outperform pessimistic peers by close to 40 percent in business and sales, and also experience lower rates of illness and depression.

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  4. Break Any Bad Habit Using This Science-Backed Approach

    It’s 3 p.m., and you’re knee-deep in an afternoon energy slump.

    You head towards the office kitchen to grab a glass of water where you’re encountered by a box of treats that seems to be calling your name. “Just one,” you swear. But that’s the third time you’ve given in to your sweet tooth this week.

    As a smart, ambitious person, you know bad habits keep you from reaching your goals. You know you’re capable of self-control. Yet, despite your best efforts, you’ve been unable to change.

    Whether it’s mid-day snacking, procrastinating, or skipping workouts, feeling powerless in the face of bad habits can really take a toll on your motivation, even your self-esteem.

    What if it’s not a lack of willpower that’s to blame? What if the advice you’ve been given about how to “break” a bad habit is actually misguided?

    If you’ve been trying different methods over and over again but nothing’s working, it’s time for a new approach that leverages the science of behavior change.

    The Psychology of Bad Habits

    You can spend hours researching life hacks. However, if you don’t first understand the psychology driving habits, you’ll never see any real success.

    When you break it down, habits are comprised of three distinct stages:

    1. Cue

    2. Routine

    3. Reward

    In the mid-day munchies example, the cue is fatigue. This triggers a routine: getting up and heading to the kitchen. The reward? Yummy goodness that gives you a temporary energy boost.

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  5. How to Respond When A Co-Worker Takes Credit for Your Work

    You’re sitting in a meeting and a co-worker takes credit for your idea. Or maybe you stay late to finish a project, but your name is left off of the final presentation. Your boss grabs the limelight and accepts all the praise.

    Even if you work in a company that encourages collaboration, some people still go too far and inappropriately monopolize work as their own, never crediting others.

    It’s infuriating when someone blatantly rips off your ideas. It feels wrong. Unfair. You want justice and may even feel a little victimized.

    How should you handle these situations? You may be torn between a desire to seek revenge and letting it go altogether. Should you jump in as soon as possible to reclaim your project? Or retreat and hope it’s a one-time thing?

    Whether intentional or an honest oversight, colleagues may take credit where it isn’t due. Here are seven tips to respond like a professional

    1. Tune into your reaction, then mine those emotions in positive ways.

    You care about your job, so when someone steals your idea it’s natural to be upset. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. In fact, your emotions may sway from disgust to defeat.

    The first step is to notice what what arises for you. Developing the self-awareness to deal with the emotions that come up and act on them constructively is key. This might mean taking time to calm down, perhaps by channeling your anger into a sweat-breaking workout.

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  6. Are You Stressed or Depressed? Here’s How to Tell The Difference.

    Entrepreneurship carries with it unique pressures unlike any traditional office job.

    Starting your own business means you shoulder personal risk, work longer hours, and encounter higher stress than most other workers.

    New studies are now beginning to shed light on the psychological toll of entrepreneurship. Research shows nearly three-quarters of business owners have concerns about their mental health. Almost half have struggled with depression or anxiety before.

    Society tends to glorify success and achievement. We shy away from talking about mental health due to the fear and stigma attached to it.

    Thankfully, that’s changing. More top business leaders are coming forward about their battles with bipolar disorder, substance abuse, and OCD. The culture of silence around mental illness in the business community is beginning to shatter and with it, the shame of seeking help.

    If you’re struggling to cope with ups and down of the entrepreneurial roller coaster, first and foremost understand that you’re not alone. Millions of others can relate to having days where you feel on top of the world, followed by periods where you feel as if everything is crashing down around you.

    Emerging from a low period takes time, and it’s essential to enlist the help of a knowledgeable mental health professional to help you through.

    Your well-being is your best business asset. Knowing that you’re dealing with a mental health condition is the first step towards getting the proper treatment.

    If you’re concerned about your emotional state, here are tips to get you started on the journey towards brighter days.

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Master your psychology with therapeutic insights for your life, relationships, & career