Diagnose the root cause of your self-sabotage at work

The STRIVE Diagnostic is the proprietary assessment I’ve developed based on data about the science of high sensitivity and high performance. It measures how balanced or unbalanced you are across 18 different components. This same tool has helped hundreds of our clients achieve remarkable results, like:

😮 A mind-boggling 77% increase in regulating their emotions at work

🧘🏽 56% improvement in their sense of groundedness, even under pressure

📈 45% increase in self compassion in the face of tough professional situations

In the past, the only way to access this proprietary diagnostic was to invest up to $3,000 to join our RESILIENT coaching program. 

This is the ONLY tool of its kind that uncovers your hidden challenges and pinpoints the exact sources – and root of – your struggles at work, so you can reclaim your energy, eliminate self-doubt, and set yourself on the path to meaningful, lasting change.

Your debrief is a comprehensive coaching experience that includes exclusive access to my proprietary digital STRIVE Diagnostic assessment, along with a private coaching intensive, detailed rubric and much, much more. 

When you claim your debrief, you get: 

Exclusive digital STRIVE diagnostic

Developed from a decade of research and coaching, this diagnostic measures 18 critical aspects of your professional life, revealing hidden stressors and self-sabotage patterns, and providing clear insights to propel your career forward.

Personalized snapshot report

Stop the endless search for answers in books and podcasts. This report visualizes your strengths and areas for improvement, saving you time and energy.

Expert walkthroughs

Navigate your assessment with ease with my step-by-step tutorial videos. Feel supported and informed to get the most from your STRIVE Diagnostic experience.

Detailed rubric

Understand exactly where you stand and benchmark your scores against common Sensitive Striver challenges.

Individualized coaching intensive

Dive deep into your personal patterns with Wendy Cary, a certified coach trained by Melody, in a personalized 90-minute coaching session that directly targets behaviors undermining your success. This accountability is invaluable – and never available with a book!

Custom action plan

You’ll leave your 90-minute intensive with customized strategies tailored to you and your results. Get a customized plan to handle high-pressure work situations without caving to panic, communicate your ideas and opinions with conviction, stay grounded even when chaos swirls around you, and more.

Lifetime access to your intensive recording

Revisit the session as needed to capture all nuances and stay fully present during your live coaching time. 

Curated resource list

Receive a hand-picked collection of resources, each selected to accelerate your specific goals.

Click here to claim your diagnostic access and debrief appointment.

Once you complete payment, you’ll be taken to a page to book a time in Wendy’s calendar for your 90-minute coaching intensive. 

From there, you’ll receive a calendar invite and a separate email with instructions on how to complete your diagnostic (which needs to be done at least 24 hours before your debrief). 

In advance of your debrief intensive, Wendy will send you questions to consider so you can come prepared and have a meaningful coaching conversation in your 60-minute session. 

Wendy, who is a certified coach and former corporate leader, has been working with me for two years and she is the only other coach in the world training in, and with access to, my proprietary tools, teaching, and frameworks. 

You’re in GREAT hands with her expert guidance. 

I totally get that you’re swamped right now. It seems like there’s never enough time in the day, right? But here’s the thing: the STRIVE Diagnostic and coaching session are designed to slot into your busy life, not add to the chaos.

You can do the online diagnostic whenever it fits into your schedule. It will take about 45 minutes to an hour. Your 90-minute intensive with Wendy is extremely focused to make every minute count.

Investing a bit of time now could actually end up saving you loads of time later. 

Plus, if you wait for a “good time” to do this, let’s be honest—that time might never come. Jumping in now, even when it feels like you can’t possibly squeeze in one more thing, could be the thing that helps you handle your packed schedule like a pro.

Instead of feeling overwhelmed by all that you want to change about yourself and how you show up at work, the STRIVE Diagnostic debrief will allow you to: 

👋🏻 Say goodbye to overwhelm. Pinpoint the EXACT sources – and root of – your struggles at work, so you have a clear picture of how to reclaim your energy, eliminate self-doubt, and set yourself on the path to meaningful, lasting change. No more wasting time and energy trying to fix EVERYTHING about yourself! 

🗺️ Finally demystify WHY you can’t get out of your own way. Through a 90-minute coaching intensive, receive laser-focused expert guidance to interpret your results, gaining an invaluable roadmap to your unique strengths, patterns, and pitfalls. Identify and unpack how you’ve been subtly undermining your success – and how to stop. 

🚀 Jumpstart your results with a practical action plan. You’ll leave your intensive with customized strategies tailored to you and your results. Get a customized plan to handle high-pressure work situations without caving to panic, communicate your ideas and opinions with conviction, stay grounded even when chaos swirls around you, and more.

Imagine knowing EXACTLY what to focus on to feel more balanced, confident, and in control every day.

Imagine the RELIEF of seeing real progress in areas where you’ve always felt stuck, knowing you are finally applying the right solutions to the right problems.

Imagine the PRIDE in being able to advocate for yourself at work, because you can articulate your value and shape how colleagues and superiors see you.

Claiming your STRIVE Diagnostic Debrief is key to no longer feeling like a prisoner to patterns like:

• Endless overthinking at work. Break free from the cycle of second-guessing every decision and endlessly analyzing “what if” scenarios 
• Chronic people-pleasing in meetings. Stop automatically saying “yes” to every request to set healthy boundaries that respect your time and priorities.
• Paralyzing perfectionism. Move beyond the need for every project to be flawless, allowing yourself to progress and innovate without fear of minor imperfections.
• Persistent self-doubt. Overcome the internal critic that questions your expertise and learn to trust your instincts and abilities with renewed confidence in high-stakes situations

So what do you say? 

Are you ready for a customized plan to handle high-pressure work situations without caving to panic, communicate your ideas and opinions with conviction, stay grounded even when chaos swirls around you, and much more? 

Get your debrief now!

You might be thinking, “Hey, isn’t the STRIVE diagnostic in Melody’s book, Trust Yourself? Why not just use that?”

It’s true, I introduced the diagnostic in my book Trust Yourself, and it’s a good start. But in the over 3 years since that book launched, we’ve enhanced the STRIVE Diagnostic.  We’ve broken it down into finer details, zooming in on each aspect to give you a sharper, clearer picture of what’s going on with you. So you can more precisely hone in on the areas you want to improve. 

And yes, the book is helpful, but going through the diagnostic alone is like trying to solve a puzzle without the picture on the box. You might figure out some pieces, but it’s easy to miss the big picture or mix up a few parts. 

That’s where your coaching intensive changes the game. Imagine having someone who knows the ins and outs of the puzzle, guiding you, showing you shortcuts, and helping you avoid dead ends. That’s what you get with Wendy. She’s not just trained; she’s seasoned in getting to the heart of what each part of your diagnostic really means—and how you can use it to get ahead. 

It’s one thing to read a map, but it’s another to have a guide who’s walked the path many times. 

See, waiting to read the book first often sounds like a reasonable plan. But let’s be real—this is usually just a procrastination tactic. 

I know because I’ve been there! We tell ourselves we’re doing the responsible thing by researching more, when really, we’re just delaying the actual work and PROGRESS. 

Think about it: while you’re spending hours, weeks, or months reading the book, you could already be making strides in understanding and tackling your overthinking, overworking, people-pleasing and more with greater speed and clarity.

As a fellow Sensitive Striver, I totally get this. It’s understandable to feel like you should be able to handle things on your own, especially when you’re a high achiever used to excelling. You might even feel a bit embarrassed or reluctant to admit that you need help, worrying that it might reflect poorly on your abilities or independence.

But, it’s important to recognize that seeking guidance isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a strategy for strength. It’s a shortcut. The reality is, even the highest performers—CEOs, top athletes—they all have coaches. Why? Because they know the value of an external expert who can spot what they can’t.

The STRIVE Diagnostic combined with expert analysis from Wendy Cary, can pinpoint the specific areas where you’re unknowingly sabotaging your own success. 

But let me ask you this: how long have you been trying to solve these issues by yourself? If you’re like many high achievers, you might have been circling around the same challenges for years, making slow progress, if any. Is continuing to spin your wheels really the best use of your time and energy?

While you might feel like “this is just how I am,” the STRIVE Diagnostic does more than just identify your traits—it explores how these characteristics interact and influence each other, and more importantly, how they impact your day-to-day actions and decisions. For instance, your drive for perfection might be affecting your ability to complete tasks efficiently, or your sensitivity might be influencing how you handle feedback or conflict. Understanding these dynamics is crucial for making meaningful changes.

You see, awareness is the first step, but knowing exactly what to do with that information is what really brings about change. Wendy doesn’t just tell you about your patterns; she provides a clear, customized action plan. This plan includes specific, manageable steps that are directly targeted to address the imbalances the diagnostic uncovers. Whether it’s learning new coping mechanisms, adjusting your work habits, or changing your communication style, each recommendation is tailored to ensure you can start implementing changes right away.

This structured approach helps you move from insight to action, transforming “this is just how I am” into “this is how I can grow and improve.” 

My team and I are here to help! Email us at hello@melodywilding.com with your question, and we’ll reply within one business day.