Knowing the right people can skyrocket your career. Your network is your net worth, right?

Yet the word networking itself makes people nervous. Add to that the expectation to somehow provide value in a way that creates a relationship based on like and trust.

If you’re like most people, you’re probably not sure what “adding value” means or how it plays out in the real world. You may want to build long-term connections, but are having trouble making it happen. Or you may feel like you have nothing to give.

Networking can trigger feelings of unworthiness and self-doubt for many people. You may question your confidence. You wonder if you’re good enough, smart enough, or talented enough.

The best way to get past these worries is to move away from abstract thinking (which lets what-if’s and doubts go crazy) towards concrete thinking. This technique, known as concreteness training, is common for anxiety. You can apply it in networking scenarios, particularly the elusive question of how to “add value” in relationships.

Whether it’s for contacts you’ve made at events, through job interviews or even with potential mentors in your field, here are specific examples of how you can provide value to others — so you can stop stressing and start connecting.

1. Make key introductions

Networking is, of course, all about connections. Have you come across two people you know could help each other? Or one contact who could solve another person’s problem?