Master your psychology with therapeutic insights for your life, relationships, & career

Top-performers seem like they have it all. They’re…

  • Highly motivated & Ambitious
  • Smart & Educated
  • Striving to be the best in all areas of their life

But the unspoken secret is that on the inside many of them feel like they’re:

  • Constantly taking on way too much
  • Always making sacrifices
  • Fighting a losing battle against self-doubt and unhappiness

The truth is that these thoughts are natural, and if you feel that despite all of your accomplishments you’re still not at peace with yourself, you’re not alone.

Unfortunately there is a flipside to success that can deeply affect the types of women who are always trying to achieve more. The emotional intelligence and ambition that often give them their edge can unfortunately also lead them to feel an increased sense of self-doubt and sabotages them from fully enjoying their achievements.

Sometimes they feel like they’re just on an incredible string of luck and are constantly afraid that their next project will be the failure that exposes them as a fraud (Imposter Syndrome). Others worry that with each new accomplishment what they’ve achieved is too good to be true and it’s going to come crashing down sooner rather than later (Upper Limit Problem). Or their success is overshadowed by baggage from dysfunctional relationships and negative patterns that follow them into the office.

Your success doesn’t have to be a source of suffering.

The good news is that many women have overcome the emotional challenges that come with success. I’m Melody, and I’ve found my calling helping women like you put an end to the cycles of guilt and unhappiness that hold you back from a lasting and balanced feeling of fulfillment.

What would it mean for you if you could fully enjoy your next promotion or achievement, instead of immediately worrying about whether you’re going to live up to the additional responsibility? How much more could you do each day if you were fully engaged instead of having the complications of a rocky relationship constantly dividing your attention? Don’t you deserve to be confident and content instead of always comparing yourself to others and feeling like you don’t measure up?

If you’re ready to break away from your self-destructive behaviors, I’d love to help you out. Subscribe to my email list for practical, weekly guidance to help you master your psychology using therapeutic insights for your life, relationships, & career.

m.w.

Working with Melody has been a revelation I didn’t know I was waiting for. Everything felt beyond my control leaving me trapped and stuck, and no matter who I reached out to, I never quite felt understood. Even just a few minutes in, Melody’s clear understanding and empathy was such an unbelievable relief — someone got what was happening and that my feelings and reactions were entirely normal. There’s not enough space in the world to go into what a difference just a few weeks have made – restoring control and balance in my life – but I will not ever forget that first five minutes.

- M.W., Editor at World's Largest Publishing Company

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  1. Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work. Here’s What Does.

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    There’s no shortage of self-help gurus who swear that repeating positive phrases to yourself can change your life, encouraging that if you simply tell yourself “I am strong and successful”, your fears will simply disappear.

    If you’ve tried using positive affirmations, you know that it can be a difficult habit to maintain. You may spend five, 10 or even 20 minutes reciting your affirmation, but the other 23 hours of the day? Chances are that your mind drifts back to old, repetitive thoughts that have burned deep grooves in your brain.

    The problem with positive affirmations is that they operate at the surface level of conscious thinking and do nothing to contend with the subconscious mind where limiting beliefs really live.

    It goes without saying that if you command yourself to think “I am abundant and attract wealth”, yet your deeply held core belief is that you are never enough or unworthy of your success, your brain will be quick to incite an inner war. If you trying tell yourself “I am successful”, but you struggle with insecurity regarding your skills and accomplishments, your subconscious may likely remind you of the many times you’ve embarrassed yourself in front of your boss or made a mistake at work (trust me, we’ve all been there!).

    The truth is that it’s natural and healthy to experience a range of feelings, including less pleasant ones like disappointment, sadness or guilt. While there’s no question that ruminating in negative emotions can turn toxic, whitewashing your insecurities with positive thinking is merely a temporary fix.

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  2. Let’s talk about bad days, because we all have them.

    Day In The Life: Simple Ways To Turn A Bad Day Around

    Being a millennial entrepreneur comes with it’s fair share of emotional ups and downs. Some days your energy is high. Your creativity is on fire.

    Other days? You find yourself in a motivational slump, wondering where that inspiration and focus disappeared to.

    Recently I had one of those frustrating “off days.” My mood was low, my brain was foggy, and my inner critic was seriously acting up. Maybe you can relate. We’ve all been there at one time or another.

    In the interest of having more honest conversations about work-life balance, happiness, and what it’s really like to be part of the side-hustle generation, I want to share how I lift myself out of a rut and rebound from a bad day.

    The David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a great place to spend a few hours working in NYC

    The David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a great place to spend a few hours working in NYC

    When I’m feeling overwhelmed or uninspired, I first shift something in my surroundings. There’s science behind this seemingly simplistic approach: It’s been shown that a change of environment stimulates creativity. Luckily in New York City there’s no shortage of quirky, wifi-enabled places to work like the David Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Center, a spot that a friend recently turned me on to.

    When I step away from distractions and give myself space to think, my best work comes out.

    When I step away from distractions and give myself space to think, my best work comes out.

    The mind is like a muscle: it requires careful maintenance or it’ll eventually be pushed beyond its limit sending you into burnout territory.
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Master your psychology with therapeutic insights for your life, relationships, & career