I am excited to share with you this replay of my recent training, high Performance Under High Pressure. This is going to take you inside the minds of our most accomplished, highest paid clients, and help you discover the subtle, specific mindset changes they have made to step up to lead million dollar budgets and bigger teams without the fear that they can’t handle it.

You’ll hear the secret to handling draining office dynamics without needing hours on the couch every Saturday to recover from the work week, and how to escape the dependable but invisible trap. During this replay, you’ll also hear the big news that my Signature program Resilient is open for enrollment.

Even better, you can save $300 right now if you register by Friday, September 12th, 1150 9:00 PM Eastern Time. All you need to do is use Code Save 300 When you. The doors officially closed for Ilian on September 18th, and we kick off the program on the 25th, but you’ve got to hurry. Remember that offer for $300 off is only available through September 12th, 1150 9:00 PM.

Now Resilient is a proven three month program that has helped over 500 sensitive strivers double their confidence in just 90 days, and we’ve got the receipts to show it. In our last cohort, our clients had a 77% increase in regulating their emotions at work. That means they can get tough feedback without it derailing their entire week.

They can stay focused on their priorities when office drama is erupting around them.

They also more than doubled their level of assertiveness. They had a 61% increase. Now they can decline those unreasonable requests. They can advocate for their ideas, they can have difficult conversations without their voice shaking. And they even had a 43% improvement in staying grounded under pressure.

They can think clearly when they’re put on the spot, they can present to executives without freezing up and make decisions quickly even when the stakes are high. So remember, Resilient officially starts September 25th. 

Why would you want to wait another week, month, or year of tolerating the same old overthinking people pleasing perfectionism when in just 13 weeks you could be walking into your year-end review and asking for that long awaited raise that you’ve been busting your butt for without the voice in your head saying, you’re not worth it.

You could actually be leaving your desk by 6:00 PM. Laptop, closed phone on silent, no checking email until the morning and feel zero guilt about it. You could be getting pulled aside by your VP after a tense meeting, and they’re saying to you, I don’t know how you stay so composed with all of those questions, but that’s the leadership we need.

So remember, you can save $300 on your resilient enrollment right now, only through September 12th when you use the code SAVE300, the doors for the program close on September 18th, and then we start on September 25th. This is the final cohort of 2025, so don’t miss it. All right. Now let’s get into the training.

Now, everything we’re talking about today comes down to this, and this is what I’m gonna walk you through and reveal to you the six subtle mental shifts that our most accomplished, highest paying clients make to go from feeling overwhelmed, second guessing themselves to being calm, commanding, even as leaders who identify as deep thinkers and feelers and have very demanding roles.

So does that sound like you gimme a me in the chat, if that sounds familiar?

Yes. Shanna, Nancy. Me, me, me, Kathy. Good to see you here. Now we are also so excited to be opening the doors on this training. Officially, the doors are open. Now with all of you being here to resilient, this is my highly acclaimed coaching program that shows you step by step exactly how to double your confidence at work.

We’re gonna show you exactly what we mean by that, but how to double your confidence at work in just 90 days, 13 weeks, and for the next 72 hours. So between now and Friday at 11:59 PM we have a big bonus for you, which is that you can save $300 on your enrollment. Again, this is only going to be available through Friday, 11:59 PM so don’t miss out.

We already have people jump. We’ve had some people jump in early to to claim their spots, and this discount is only going to be available through Friday. We have hundreds on the wait list. We have, uh, thousands of people registered for this event alone. This is our final cohort of the program for 2025. We will not be opening the doors again until mid 2026.

All right, so this is your chance. If you wanna join us, we’ll talk much more about the program. But if you wanna hop in right now, just head to melody wilding.com/resilient. We’ll put that link in the chat for you as well. And when you check out, just enter the code Save 300, that’s gonna get you that discount.

So. I wanna make sure you know you’re in good hands today. I am Melody wilding. You probably know me, you might follow my work on LinkedIn or perhaps you heard me on a podcast. Some of you here, I’ve spoken at your companies. I see in the chat. I am an executive coach, licensed social worker, human behavior, human behavior professor.

And maybe you’ve also read one or both of my books, managing Up and Trust Yourself. Uh, you might not know that I began my career as a therapist. That’s what my background and my training is. And I started out my career in a very interesting way, which was being a therapist to founders and leaders of Silicon Valley startups, of top tech companies.

And so a very high achieving group of people. And now flash forward. Over 13 years now, and I have worked with thousands of top performers worldwide to help them find what I call your professional power position. That is that sweet spot where confidence in yourself meets influence with others because we need both of those things in order to be successful at work.

I also have here with me a very special part of, uh, our organization here. A very, very special part of Resilient. Wendy. Wendy, do you wanna introduce yourself quickly? Hi everybody. I’m Wendy Carey. So happy to see you all today and like Melody said, so many familiar faces, faces, so, so happy that you are here and looking forward to interacting with you a little bit later on in this.

Amazing, amazing, so glad to have you and Wendy will be here. She’s gonna be helping me out in the chat as well and answering questions. So as we’re going along, make sure you are putting those in. Now, I created this training today for smart, capable professionals just like you, who are tired of riding an emotional rollercoaster at work every single day.

Because this is what I hear from people in my LinkedIn dms, my Instagram dms, people who email in, who listen to the podcast or who have read an article, they say things like this, I should be able to handle this level of responsibility without feeling so drained. How many of you have thought, some version of this?

And I would love to hear in the chat, what? What does this story sound like for you? Maybe it’s something like, my colleagues make tough decisions. They’re not losing sleep at night. What’s wrong with me? Or real leaders don’t take criticism personally. I don’t understand why I’m broken. I’m supposed to be the one who is inspiring confidence, who is creating the vision for other people, but I feel like I need constant reassurance, right?

Yeah. Uh. I see a lot of Yes, every project. 100%. Yes, exactly. Yeah. The confusing part of all of this is you have probably reached a point in your career where your results speak for themselves, right? You’ve proven your competence dozens of times again and again year after year. Yet this may be your reality.

Every day you feel like you’re constantly on edge. Like beneath the surface, you are just one step away from everything you built, crumbling, like your next big opportunity, your promotion, your raise, it could slip away. It, you don’t keep performing at 110%, or maybe you’ve been on the receiving end of constant upheaval this year.

Multiple reorgs changing leaders, and it just seems like every time there’s more responsibility, more demands, and I hear this a lot, you feel like. You are. You are going a hundred miles an hour all week. You have meetings back to back, you have decisions to make, you have fires to put out. You have teams and projects to manage, and then you crash.

When you get into the weekend, you need to spend the whole weekend recovering on the couch because there’s one step away from burnout. So it sounds like Kathy was saying, I feel very seen. Are we getting this right? Gimme a plus one in the chat. We’re getting this right. Yeah. Sheila was saying, you give, oops.

Now the chat’s moving fast. You give and give and feel no appreciation and are pulled in lots of different directions. Yes, but what’s even worse is that it’s not always the workload that drains you the most. It’s what’s happening up here. It’s what’s happening inside of your head. No one talks about this part enough that the number one reason professionals like you fail when you reach top levels is because.

We fail to achieve high performance under high pressure, not because of our expertise or our technical skills. It’s because we are failing to navigate the intensity, the speed, the stress that comes with reaching higher levels. Because as you go up the chain, as you advance further into your career, everything amplifies your scope, girl grows the number of people looking to you for direction, multiplies the demands.

You face skyrocket and the stakes of those de demands skyrocket. And then suddenly you’re in this position where you, your ability to influence without direct authority, to mobilize and inspire other people to communicate with impact, to take decisive action, all of that becomes crucial. At the same time, there again, there’s this conundrum.

Your own doubt, hesitations, stress is surging. And with that, especially if you are someone who is naturally more sensitive, more perceptive, comes a whole lot of mental gymnastics. So yes, every week you are probably getting a ton done. You are handling the crises, you’re delivering the presentations, you’re keeping all of the plates spinning, but you’re also burning a lot of energy on these things here.

And tell me, tell me in the chat what you feel like you burn energy on. Maybe needlessly. Maybe it’s hyper analyzing your boss’s tone of voice in their email yesterday. Maybe it’s trying to decode what everyone really thinks about your latest proposal. Maybe it’s that 3:00 AM panic, wake up about the decision you made months or weeks ago.

Or maybe you’re spending a lot of energy endlessly tweaking your slides, your presentations, but you deliver it and then you, you still leave the room feeling like a fraud. Yeah, I’m seeing all of these, all of the above, relate to all of them. Here’s the thing, I don’t know, I’m, I’m gonna assume a lot of you spend a lot of time reading books on LinkedIn, your seekers, right?

And we spend a lot of time in this personal and professional development space, leadership and management, talking about things like a presentation, skills, time management, delegation tactics, personal branding strategies. Yet we spend almost zero time on what’s happening between our ears, even though those mental patterns dictate everything.

How you interpret feedback, whether you speak up in that important meeting, if you advocate for the promotion you deserve or not, whether you take on that stretch assignment or you talk yourself out of it if you quickly recover from something that derails you or you let that mistake stick with you for days, whether you set boundaries or you burn out trying to please everyone.

All the external leadership tactics in the world will not stick. If you are working against yourself, you can be the most prepared person in the room, but if you are second guessing every word you say, people will sense that uncertainty. You can set clear expectations and hand off work, but if you then can’t stop micromanaging because you’re terrified something is going to go wrong, your team’s not going to trust you.

You can get glowing feedback in your performance review, but if you just deflected and say, oh, it was nothing, it was a team effort, you are going to continue feeling like you are overworking yourself into the ground and you will not feel good enough. The good news is that the people you admire, those colleagues, those leaders who seem unshakeable, they are not superhuman.

And they are not people with zero insecurities or zero sensitivities, but what they have learned, those people that do perform at the highest level levels, they do know that everything from decision making, your presence, your ability to influence, it has to come from a place of internal stability. They have developed the mental fortitude, the inner tools to handle the ambiguity, criticism, high stakes, without letting their nervous system hijack their judgment.

Can you help me with the trash really quick? Oops. It’s, the bag is broken. Wendy, would you mind, oh, I think I got it. Uh, please just make sure you’re on, on mute if you could. I’m just gonna mute everyone. There we go. Excellent. Okay. Now, the reason all of this is so crucial right now, in this moment in time as we’re recording this, it’s the beginning ish of, uh, September, but, oh.

Let’s face it, we are standing on the edge of Q4 and you are all far enough into your career by now to know everything speeds up from here, right? It’s like this whoosh, into the end of the year. So you have end of year planning, performance reviews, budget cycles, new projects that, uh, now we’re trying to spin up ’cause we need to hit our end of year financial goals.

And it’s very easy to think, maybe I’ll feel ready to push back on those deadlines once I prove myself a little bit more. Or I should probably figure out why I keep working weekends, but not right now. Too much to do. Need to get that done and focus on that. Or I’ll address that whole, everyone thinks I don’t belong here.

I’ll, I’ll do that in 2026. So instead you commit to listening to the audio book of the Let Them Theory, right? I’m sure many of you are doing that and you call that working on yourself and listen. No shade to Mel Robbins, but you’re overthinking people, pleasing perfectionism. All of that is not going to magically resolve itself in a few hours of just listening to some motivational content, and nor this is very important, nor does it take a holiday break because you already know what happens when you just keep pushing this stuff off.

You’ve lived that pattern probably for many years now, if not your whole career. October hits the end of year pressure continues ramping up, and then all of a sudden you blink and it’s January and you’re still wasting energy, beating yourself up over every mistake, watching opportunities pass you by, while other colleagues are getting the money, the accolades, the recognition you’re prioritizing your team, your boss, your clients, your family, and letting your emotional wellbeing completely take a backseat, we hope.

You feel that’s unacceptable because we certainly do. We don’t want you to go through that anymore. And so we really want you to ask yourself, why would you let another month, quarter, year pass by without doing better for yourself? All of you dedicated time to being here because you want to do better for yourself.

You would not be here otherwise. You don’t want to be burned out by November like you usually are, just because you feel like you can’t keep up with the pace and every while, everyone else just seems fine, like they’re breezing through it. So let’s make this real for you with a vision and a commitment.

We want you to type in the chat and tell us, tell us the answer to this question. What do you want to be bragging about on New Year’s Eve? Type in a few words or a phrase. What do you want to be bragging about on New Year’s Eve? Maybe it’s hearing. We need you to lead that big turnaround and feeling excitement, not dread.

Maybe it’s getting that call that. The board wants your recommendation on something and your first thought is, I got this, not, oh my God. What if I’m wrong? Maybe it’s closing your laptop at 6:00 PM knowing that the presentation you need to give, it’s not perfect yet, but you trust yourself enough to know that you’ll be okay and you can be present at your sports game.

Yeah. I’m just gonna read some of the comments here. Getting a job after being laid off. Yes. Speak. That involves having to speak to your value. Less anxious, less overanalyzing, being promoted to pay grades, keeping my work life balance through Q4. Excellent. That VP promotion, Ashley, amazing. Yes. What is, what do you wanna be bragging about on New Year’s Eve?

Keep those coming in. This is important as a commitment to you, not just for us, but you need to name it and claim it. Now. Most people think that the goal is to feel less stress, to have fewer difficult conversations. To encounter fewer obstacles. I hate to break it to you, but the speed and intensity of work is not going anywhere.

Things are becoming more and more competitive, more and more uncertain by the day. And as we talked about, the pressure only intensifies as you advance. Advance. So if these things aren’t going away, then the real question is, are you going to keep hoping the circumstances get easier or are you going to master how to show up even when they don’t?

Because the biggest lever you have right now is how you operate internally, especially when the circumstances and everything around you is increasingly intense.

In our resilient graduate, Alina, she did just this. She was three months into a new role as content manager, and she was still struggling a bit to find her footing in this new culture. There were a lot of deadlines moving. Stakeholders were contradicting each other in the same meeting, and urgent seemed to be the default setting for everything.

But here was the toughest part. That pressure, it turned inward very fast, and I’m sure a lot of you do that to yourself. Whatever pressure or stress everyone else is experiencing, all of a sudden you start inflicting it on yourself. And Alina would spend entire evenings dissecting a 30 minute team meeting.

Did I sound confident when I presented that pitch? Do they think I can handle this pace? And Resilient gave her specific tools to make quick decisions, to stand behind her judgment calls, even when, even when the pressure felt crushing, felt monumental. When angry customers called, or her boss pushed back on her recommendations, she could respond to it without her heart B racing out of her chest or her mind going completely blank.

These skills are exactly what helped Alina soon land a new role that was an editorial lead, and then move on to a head of community job where she’s now driving strategy that shapes her entire organization.

So all of those external wins, and this is true for almost everyone who goes through resilient, that the external wins are direct result of internal growth. We see this all of the time, and we share this because we want to show you what’s possible that even patterns that feel like they’re very unchangeable or fixed within yourself, they’re not.

You can make huge gains in 90 days. These are stats from our last, our most recent cohort of resilient that wrapped up a few weeks ago in August. And you’ll see here 77% increase in feeling in control of their emotions. 61% stronger at assertively saying no, 43% improvement, and feeling more grounded and calm under stress.

So just think about what would be different for you if you could do these things. Tell me in the chat, what would be different for you if you could do these things

less overthinking. What would be different for you? Peace under pressure, better boundaries. Less second guessing. I would feel proud. More sleep at night. Yes. Yes. All of those things are on the other side of these six mindsets that we wanna walk you through. So that you can handle whatever is ahead of you or in front of you with a clear head, with steadiness and a strong sense of self, that’s most important.

Once you adopt these mindsets, that’s when you put yourself on the path to command respect without feeling like you have to work yourself to the bone, to the ground to achieve it. When you can disagree without a lump in your throat, when you can finally feel as capable as everyone else knows you are, and that’s when the opportunities, the promotion, the raises, the recognition, all of that starts coming to you.

Now, these six ships we’re gonna take you through, these are not just something we pulled out of thin air just ’cause we felt like it someday. Everything we’re sharing with you today is informed by studying what has made our resilient members successful. Those that come from top companies like you see here, these people are no strangers to a fast pace, to a lot of change and demands.

And these are the exact mindset shifts our resilient clients have used to do things, whether it’s silencing that inner critic before, uh, a big event, navigating office politics around them without absorbing it all. We have had people land skip level promotions, get named to lead centers of excellence, negotiate six figure raises, all while actually sleeping at night and having energy for their family, their hobbies, their life outside of work.

We have collated these ideas. We’re gonna share to you from thousands of data points that we have collected with clients over the years, and now we’re giving them to you. Those who work with us inside of resilient tend to identify with what we call being a sensitive striver. If this resonates with you, say me in the chat, but this is a term I coined.

It refers to being someone who thinks and feels everything more deeply, but who is also very ambitious. I achieving constantly pushing themselves to excel. So as a sensitive striver, you have six core qualities. These make up the acronym strive, right? I wanna give you a quick overview of these because these are going to map to the six shifts that I give you.

So this is important context. So the first of those is sensitivity. And I know you might think, well, duh, I know I’m sensitive, but what we mean here is your physical reaction to what’s happening within and around you. That’s what sensitivity comes down to. Having a bigger nervous system response, taking a bit longer to recover from stimulation.

So if you relate to that, you are not being dramatic. Your nervous system is processing more data, responding more intensely to inputs than other someone else’s might. Your body is constantly working harder to filter, to manage everything coming at you, which is why you might feel exhausted when other people seem totally fine.

Second is thoughtfulness. Your ability to reflect deeply, to catch details that other people’s miss, other people miss. So your brain is processing way more data than the average person’s. So think about it. If the average person’s brain is taking in like a thousand data points per second, yours is absorbing and analyzing 10,000, and this makes you incredibly perceptive strategic.

It can also send you into overthinking every little thing. And you can sometimes be so self-aware that it almost, the circle goes all the way around and you become self-critical. ’cause you’re so aware of your hangups and your quirks and idiosyncrasies. Next, we have responsibility. How committed and accountable you are to others and yourself.

Most sensitive strivers are good at that first part, being accountable to others. They’ll stay late to get something over the finish line. They’re the person that remembers to follow up on everything, but the responsibility to themselves is practically non-existent. So you will move mountains to meet someone else’s deadline, but you’ve been putting off that performance review conversation with your boss for six months.

You’ll research options for a project for three hours to save the company money, but you can’t bring yourself to negotiate your own salary. So all of this sounding familiar. Let us know in the chat. This is resonating with you. Fourth is inner drive. So this is that motivation to become a better version of yourself, to always be growing and learning.

You may not necessarily want to climb the ladder or do that to impress others. This is more about the inner satisfaction that comes from, from getting better. You love to have something to work towards, but you can also completely overload yourself by taking on too much. Okay, fifth is vigilance. This is your heightened awareness specifically to everything that’s happening in your environment.

So you’re picking up on subtle changes in tone, uh, energy dynamics that other people may just gloss over. And this extends beyond just people you’re noticing. Patterns, changes in, uh, processes, sys systems, the literal environment, physical space around you. So your awareness is operating on multiple levels simultaneously.

You’re tracking what people are saying, how they’re saying it, what they’re not saying, how the overall vibe in the room feels.

And then last is emotionality. So this is the intensity and the complexity of how we experience our feelings. We have a lot of, uh, depth nuance that most people don’t have when, so for example, when your colleague gets a great opportunity, you don’t just think good for them. You really feel that joy, that excitement for them that sometimes pride, right?

But sometimes we may have multiple emotions happening all at once that we can’t really parse out. We stay in certain emotional states for better or worse, longer than most people. So now I wanna dive into these six specific shifts to make, and I wanna start with sensitivity diving into. Where most of you might be becoming your own worst enemy right now, and how to change that, because I guarantee that right now you are telling yourself some version of this story, it’ll get better when who is guilty of this?

Gimme a me in the chat. This is you. You tell yourself, Ugh, I just have to keep pushing through until we finish this project. Or you think it’ll ease up once the holidays are here, or once I get through busy season, we’ll have more resources at that point and I can finally take my foot off the gas. So there’s this fantasy.

We convince ourselves of that there’s some magical finish line when the pressure stops. And it’s like the story of Sisyphus. Maybe you’re familiar with this, but he was condemned to continue pushing a boulder up a hill for eternity. But every time he would get close to the top, the boulder would roll back down and he would have to start again.

And that’s exactly what we do to ourselves. We are holding our breath for something that is never coming. And because you’ve been telling yourself this story that ugh, relief is just a week away. It’s after that finish line. You stay in this survival mode longer and longer. But then when it doesn’t end and the next challenge immediately appears, it feels so disillusioning and frankly demoralizing.

’cause it’s like, oh, I thought I would be thought this would be done. So when you are operating from this belief of it’ll get better when sometimes you can become the leader that everyone walks on eggshells around because you’ve been pushing yourself to the bitter end, you are irritable in team meetings, your feedback comes out sharper than you attended, intended rather people stop bringing you problems because you seem just perpetually overwhelmed.

Routine tasks feel monumental, right? A simple email response feels like it’s another mountain that you have to climb, another boulder. You have to push up that hill. So every time you tell yourself, I’ll just get through this quarter, this month, this project, you’re sending a message to your brain. We’re in danger, and you’re keeping yourself perpetually trapped in this flight or fight mode just ongoing.

Here’s the key shift. True high performers realize there is no finish line. There is no after this. They never say, we’re just gonna get through Q4, because they know Q1 of the next year is going to bring its own challenges and fires. So instead they think this pace, this is my new normal and I build my life around growing through this and optimizing for this not enduring.

Not enduring it. They understand capacity is created through micro recovery, that the harder they work the more they need to double down on the fundamentals. But that doesn’t mean you need to journal for hours a day or meditate for 30 minutes. They adapt restoration to fit into the pockets of time they actually have because that may just mean taking two minutes between a meeting to breathe or taking a call while walking.

They get that. Restoration is a prerequisite. It is not a reward for hard work. It is not something they only get after they have put in the time. They don’t punish themselves into earning it until by working, until their eyes are blurry and they can’t see straight and they’re falling asleep at their computer.

They know what they can accomplish. In two hours when they are feeling sharp and energized is vastly different than what they can do if they are slogging through at 10:00 PM and they’re running on fumes. And most importantly, this is very important. They treat their sensitivity with complete neutrality.

They treat their sensitivity with complete neutrality. They see it a little bit like owning a sports car. They don’t say things like, well, I’m sensitive. Um, I know I’m more sensitive, so I, I don’t think I could handle that meeting, or, I don’t think I could handle that role. They see it like a sports car, like I said, that you require premium fuel.

You maybe require more frequent tuneups or special equipment you have to get from somewhere else, but they know themselves. They use that as self knowledge to optimize how they move through their, through their day and their work, not as a weapon against themself for why they can’t do something. So they say, I know I get drained if I have back to back to back to back meetings.

So instead, I have a 15 minute block between each one. They say that instead of, I should be able to handle more meetings like everybody else. No one else seems to get drained. All right. What’s standing out for you so far? Ashley said, total game changer for me. Optimizing vert versus enduring. Yes. So one of our resilient graduates, uh, exemplified this perfectly, Janice.

She came to us to the program after spending an entire holiday break working while her family was celebrating, like in the next rooms without her. And it was precisely because she was telling herself, I just need to get through this, right? This is just another busy period. It’ll get better when the new year is here.

And when it didn’t, that was her moment where she knew, I can’t go on like this, right? Because it’s just the hamster wheel. So inside the program with the tool she learned, she started to do simple things. She got up from her desk and she took a real lunch break. She, when the day was over, the day was over.

She didn’t go back for that third shift at night. She, and this was, these were things she hadn’t done for years, and I’m sure this is true for many of you here, right? As a sensitive striver, you know that these things that are here, they may sound simple, they may sound straightforward on the outside, but overcoming the huge mental hurdles it takes to, to actually implement this consistently, that is so meaningful because being able to log off for an entire weekend is great.

But what was even more valuable for her was not having that cloud of guilt hanging over her head, or the compulsion to check in on what was happening on teams. Janice said to us, she said, I’m now just a much happier person. My marriage is better. I have time for my friendships again. And within a few months of graduating from the program, she, um, had the energy and the confidence to actually apply for, and, and get a new role that had a much bigger remit, which was very exciting for her.

Okay. The second toxic thought you might be following victim to is this one. If I just think through this more, then do.dot, then I’ll have the right answer, then I’ll feel prepared to raise my hand or to answer the question, who’s guilty of this one? Give us a me in the chat. This one comes from the underlying belief that credibility comes from being right and certain.

So you think every problem has an optimal answer. If you only just analyze it long enough and you tell yourself. You need to be ready for anything. You need to set aside time to go deeper on this before you speak up, before you decide, before you take action. But here’s an example of what ends up happening here, right?

You’re in a leadership meeting and the CEO asked for input on a decision. You actually have thoughts, you have good ones, but you don’t speak up. You don’t say anything because you haven’t researched every single angle. So you think, well, I should, I should really look into this more. I’ll, I’ll send an email later.

Yes. Meanwhile, you’ve all seen this happen. Someone else jumps in with a half formed idea that moves the conversation forward, and suddenly they’re the one who’s leading the next steps that you could have owned. So this is a toxic thought that is costing you opportunities. More importantly, it’s costing you trust in yourself because the more you analyze.

The more reasons you find not to act. Who is that? Who is that true? For? Every additional piece of research tends to reveal new risks, new complications, potential downsides, someone else’s opinion that you need to take into account. The more value variables you consider, the more you start to confuse yourself.

And second guess, you don’t know which way is up and what started as a clear direction becomes muddy when you’ve looked at it from 20 different angles. And through all of this, like I said, your confidence erodes with every what if. What if situation You imagine. The longer you think, the less sure you become about the options you thought were initially right, and then you’re so mentally exhausted from all of that churning that you can’t even make a good decision.

Do you see how this process just feeds into itself? So this is the shift here. Thinking longer does not equal thinking better. In fact, speed and inter iteration win the day. And I wanna be very clear. I’m not saying to be reckless, I’m saying you need to understand that perfect information is a luxury you can’t always afford.

And most of the time, perfect information is just purely impossible, especially when you are in a high volume, fast moving operation team or role. The highest performers realize that taking action faster gives them real world feedback that is infinitely more about valuable than any theoretical planning they can just do inside their head.

They would rather get something 80% right and then course correct than get it, than feel or be a hundred percent prepared and be too late. So I, I am always saying to our clients, you can intellectualize till the cows come home, right? You can intellectualize why a certain team dynamic is happening, but you won’t know how people could collaborate better until you pilot something or until you assign them to work together.

You can model scenarios all day, but you won’t know how or what obstacles you’re actually going to face until you start executing. Plus, while you are analyzing, the people around you are stuck. Whether it’s your team, it’s your colleagues, whoever it is, they can’t move forward on their own work. They can’t make decisions.

They are losing momentum. So you’re overthinking. It’s creating this bottleneck that has a ripple effect, and that’s when people start losing faith in your leadership. When you are consistently delaying decisions to gather more information, others around you start to question whether you can handle the ambiguity, the speed that comes with your role.

So our client, Luke, saw this firsthand how trust from others and trust in himself came from moving more quickly. And he had just stepped into a new, uh, leadership role, a new role as an engineering manager. And immediately his doubts, it was like they swallowed him and he looked around, he saw all these other hard charging, strong, very resolute peers, and he compared himself to them.

And then he would flounder and think, well, what should I do? I don’t really know. Uh, I should know. I should know what to do here. And especially being in a highly technical field, maybe you can relate to this. He had this expectation that he needed to know everything right now immediately. And when he was caught off guard, he’d beat himself up.

He would spiral into more of a panic, which again, only became this vicious cycle. But now he knows. Now he knows how to separate when he is deep thinking versus. Overthinking. Those are two different things. He knows how to pull himself out of that overanalyzing spiral. He has the conviction to say, I’m the manager.

I’m making this hard decision. I understand not everyone is going to be happy about it, but my obligation is to do what’s best for the team in our projects here. So now when someone asks him the answer to a question or asks yes, ask him the answer to a question he doesn’t know. He doesn’t c psych himself out.

He calmly redirects or he defers. He doesn’t make it into this inner drama. And because he was getting better results for the organization, because he now believes in himself, he was actually able to negotiate a raise, which he did during his time in the program. All right. That brings us to our third toxic belief.

This is a sneaky one. My job is to provide air cover. Tell me, I wanna say, oh, how many of you tell me in the chat. Do you consider yourself a servant leader type? Yes. You probably pride yourself on caring a lot about your people. You do everything to shield them from chaos. You take on all the political messiness so your team can just focus on the work.

As the leader, you feel the ultimate accountability falls on you, right? So naturally you redo things. If they’re not right, you’ll stay late to make sure something gets done. This is going to be an unpopular opinion, but calling yourself a servant leader is often a noble way to justify bad habits. I see this time and time again, sensitive strivers call themselves servant leaders, when in actuality it is really just an excuse or a coverup for their own dysfunction.

So please hear me when I say this. Your urge to provide air cover for your team creates learned helplessness. As a self-proclaimed recovering control freak, I 110% get this. You are redoing their work because it’s just faster to do it yourself. You’re fielding calls from angry, angry clients. You take the heat when they mess up.

Again, I wanna be very clear. I’m not saying you should abandon your people. You should be a complete jerk to them. But when you swoop in constantly to save the day, they become dependent on your protection and you are drowning in everyone else’s problems that you are drowning in what everyone else could have handled.

Your team never grows up, and besides you cannot delegate, delegate, or scale yourself as a leader. When you are secretly terrified, you are going to fail and that will reflect poorly on you. The cruel irony of all of this here I see this is resonating with a lot of you, is that the harder you work to prove yourself.

The more you wi risk proving you can’t handle more. Let me explain what I mean by this. Right now, you might be focused on making yourself indispensable, but when you do that, you become the only one who knows how to do your job. You can’t step away for a vacation or a family emergency. You can’t grow because your team, your boss, people are afraid to lose you.

They need you right where you are in that seat, and you become not promotable. You are pigeonholed. You are trapped. Being everyone’s hero makes you nobody’s leader. You have created a risk and a bottleneck for the organization and your own career growth. So while you’re responding to every urgent request, you’re solving every immediate crisis.

Who’s doing the thinking about next year’s plan? Who’s building the systems that prevent these fires in the first place? It’s not you because you’re too busy putting them. So aim to be invaluable instead. This may sound like semantics, but it’s important. When you are invaluable, you create the work that others can execute you.

Design systems and strategies that others can run. You develop people so they can handle what you used to. You are the source of ideas and directions. So elite leaders understand that selectivity signals, seniority, their ability to say, that’s not the best use of my time. And to redirect requests that is not rude.

It’s exactly what executives do. When you can push back thoughtfully, prioritize strategically, you are showing a level of judgment that you belong at that leadership table. Now, you’ll be hearing from, uh, my client, Sarah here very soon on the podcast. And, uh, I wanted to highlight her here because. She’s an excellent example of someone who went from being her team’s babysitter to becoming someone who has now been specifically recognized by her executive team as having strong leadership and clear priorities.

And so Sarah, she grew up in a military family, and this gave her incredible work ethic, but it also programmed into her that she had to accept whatever higher ranking people were throwing at her. The bigger problem though is that she was babysitting, she was mothering her team. So someone would ask a question about a project that she had explained two times already.

She would drop everything and walk them through it. Again, a request came from another department, no problem. She’ll take care of it. Right? If someone dropped a ball, don’t worry. It’s all good. I got it. So on the podcast, you’re gonna hear Sarah talk about how when she joined Resilient, she discovered a very simple distinction that changed everything.

Responsible to versus responsible for. You are responsible to your team for providing guidance, support, opportunities, clear direction. You are not responsible for their emotions, their mistakes, fixing every problem they encounter. And by the end of resilient, Sarah’s assertiveness had hi had increased 40% in just 13 weeks.

And so she was getting her input heard by her executive team. She was redirecting those out scope requests, so she had time for higher priorities. She was responding to questions faster and more decisively. And so not only now does her team feel more ownership, requires less checking up on, but her boss even said to her, you know, you’re different.

You’re more confident. I like it.

Okay, here’s the next one. You are all driven types, so I bet this next, this next thought trap is going to sound familiar. You get a huge win and you think, okay, what’s next? Right? Who does this? You can say, me. Who does this? Where you get a win and you’re onto the next thing. You close the biggest deal of the quarter and you’re like, well, what about next quarter?

Or you finally get that promotion you’ve been working towards and you think, Ugh, I gotta start focusing on making vp. Whatever it is, every achievement immediately feels small or temporary. You can’t let yourself feel proud because you’re always thinking about that bigger goal. When you do this, you are training yourself to not feel satisfied.

You are conditioning yourself to believe that you, what you accomplished isn’t enough, that you’re always behind on some imaginary timeline, and that stops you from appreciating your wins, which I wanna be clear, does not make you soft or complacent. And this more. When you, when you are not taking in your wins, it morphs into all types of toxic thoughts, judgements, like, I should be further along by now.

Nothing I ever do is enough. If I stop pushing, I’m gonna fall behind. And since you immediately minimize every achievement, you never internalize evidence of your capabilities and your strengths. So you keep operating from the same insecure baseline, which means that no matter what your level, how many degrees you have, how many accolades you get, you don’t feel like you belong because you haven’t given yourself credit for earning your way there.

You make worse decisions because you’re always operating from this deficit mindset. When you feel like you have never done enough. Every choice feels desperate. You take on projects, you shouldn’t. You say yes to opportunities, you shouldn’t. You’re chasing this elusive feeling of being enough. Again, the people around you get whiplash from constant direct direction change.

You finish one project and you’re already talking about the next three. Nobody gets to enjoy what they just accomplished.

So the key shift here, as you might be picking up on is integration is just as important as striving for more. Your brain needs time to update your identity when you accomplish something significant, but you immediately move on, your sense of self doesn’t have a chance to catch up to that new reality.

So you just keep operating from those same old limitations, even though you have proven you’re capable of more, and you will always act inconsistent or you will always act consistently, rather with your beliefs. So if you just led your team through a major crisis, but you don’t pause to internalize that, now you are someone who can handle those types of situations.

You will continue to feel anxious the next time that comes around. Your identity is stuck at that previous level, and therefore you will always act in accordance with how you see yourself. So pausing to recognize your wins, even dare I say, savor them, it is not about indulging puffing yourself up. You are literally rewriting yourself concept based on evidence.

But you have to pause to acknowledge that. Now, uh, our past graduate, Wendy, she’s a great example of this. She joined Resilient after her company, uh, was acquired by a much bigger firm, and it was exciting, but there was also a lot of upheaval that threw everything in the company off. And for her there was a upheaval as well.

She felt like she was questioning everything. Where did I fit? Where do I fit in this company? What do I wanna do with my career? Is there value I can still provide here? Who do I wanna be? She was grappling with all these big questions and it was really unsettling. And for Wendy, what she realized was she had spent years rushing from one achievement to the next, to the next, to the next.

She had never stopped to internalize what she had done. So when the external situation changed on her, she had no internal foundation to stand on. She couldn’t see her own value. She had never taken time to articulate it. And then she nailed a huge project that was mission critical for this merger.

Instead of the usual pattern of immediately just moving on to the next thing, for the first time in years, she allowed herself to feel satisfied. And she told me I was so proud of myself ’cause I freaking kicked ass. And I just, we, we had a good laugh about that. But she could objectively see, like I wrote a lot to the table.

She allowed it to sink in instead of brushing it off. And as that happened more and more and more, it gave her leverage to speak to her boss about where she could contribute, how she could craft her role to her strengths. And when she eventually did end up entering into a job search, she did it with this solid belief in her skills.

And she could speak to what she could bring to the table instead of having that anxiety about whether she was good enough or had anything to offer.

All right. Our last shift here, or our last toxic thought, rather, is everything’s a threat. It’s hard to appreciate what you’re doing well when everything around you feels like it’s threatening to your status, your reputation, your standing with others. And this belief is often lurking so strongly in the background, but you might not even realize it’s there.

So this shows up when you are trying to dissect every nuance of an email, every meeting dynamic, every slight change in someone’s behavior that could signal danger, right? They don’t like me, they’re mad at me. A delayed response means someone’s upset. Someone has a bit of a different communication style with you.

It means you’re no longer on their good side. You’re not invited to a meeting, means you’re being sidelined. You feel as if everyone is just waiting for you to fail, as if you’re just under this microscope where every choice feels high stakes. People are judging you sound familiar to anyone? Yeah. And the worst part of this is the self gaslighting where you say, oh, I’m being too sensitive about it, right?

I just need to grow a thicker skin. But what you dismiss is you’re picking up on something about the changing dynamics, and then you torture yourself about it. So when everything feels like it’s a potential threat to your standing. You stick to safe choices and opportunities, or you miss opportunities, rather you become paralyzed in meetings because you’re too busy monitoring what’s happening.

You’re calculating the risks, you create problems that aren’t really problems. I don’t know if anybody has done that. I certainly have. Um, you are defensive behavior and constant need for reassurance can actually drain the people around you. It can make others question you or actively not include you. So here’s the thing.

The pressures you are facing right now is something no management or leadership training really prepares you for. You have people who are questioning every choice you make. You need to stay composed when you’re pulled in a thousand different directions. You have to manage team members who have their own personal stuff going on.

Your vigilance gives you an advantage. Here. You can read the dynamics and understand what’s striving people’s reactions. You can make a case that appeals to people’s biggest pain points and be more convincing, you know, whether to slow down or speed up by gauging the energy. But all of that is only a useful tool if you know how to process it without getting overwhelmed by it.

So the most elite leaders, they know how to distinguish between intuition and anxiety. They know which one to trust. So when you get a gut feeling that your biggest client might be ready to leave, that’s an intuition worth investigating. But when you convince yourself that they are leaving only based on the fact that you haven’t been responsive enough to their emails, that’s anxiety creating a story that probably isn’t true.

And so top performers, they hold multiple explanations in mind at the same time, and that’s a sign of maturity that you can hold multiple understandings in your head at once.

When you stop personalizing everything, you have so much more time and space, bandwidth, energy for fun, for the rest things in the rest of your life. And that’s what our graduate Tamara found before she would tell us that these are her words. She said Conflicts at work would eat me up for days. She would replay the conversation, she would analyze the tone.

She would convince herself that her colleagues hated her and to cope. She would come home, she would turn on Netflix, she’d grab a glass of wine and she would just numb out. Sound familiar? The big light bulb moment for her was realizing no one wants to follow and insecure leader. That’s literally what she said to me.

And learning to read the room without reading into everything was revolutionary for her because now she didn’t have to get wrapped up in the drama around her. She became less afraid to speak up, especially about the things she was unhappy about because she was less worried about everybody else’s reactions.

She ended up moving to a new neighborhood and she had the energy to put herself out there and make new friends. And she said, now I’m having fun on Friday nights. People wanna talk to me ’cause I have in interesting things to say instead of just complaining. And so this is what happens, that you create more space and capacity for the relationships and the experiences that actually matter.

Alright, our, I might have said the last one was the toxic belief, but this is the last one. All I need is a thicker skin. Gimme a plus one. This is something you tell yourself. All I need is a thicker skin. The belief that you can just willpower your way out of feeling things. So you build walls, you try to practice the neutral expression.

You tell yourself other people’s moods shouldn’t affect you. Yeah, and you create this almost split between your work self and your home self, like the work self has to be on, and this performance home self can be you, and you can finally rea relax again. You try to mentally override your reactions, but when you do this, you are not processing your emotions.

You are postponing them. And guess what? They come up later. They come up. When you get home, what you’ve been stuffing down comes up when you try to go to sleep, right? So you’re constantly using energy to hold back your reactions, which is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. Eventually your arms get tired and when they do, the ball comes up and it smacks you in the face, usually at the worst possible moment, right?

It’s almost like those suppressed feelings they have to go somewhere, so they come out in other ways. You snap at your partner, you get irrationally angry in traffic. You find yourself crying during, during commercial with cute puppies. It happens. You may develop physical symptoms, headaches, tight shoulders, digestive issues.

We hear this a lot. You feel like people around you think you’re inconsistent or unpredictable. People don’t know which version of you they’re gonna get. Is it the calm controlled version or is it the the upset reactive version? So this is the paradigm change for how you relate to yourself. Emotions are data.

Anger means a value that’s important to you is at stake. Emotions are data overwhelm signals. Your priorities might not be in order that your energy is being spread too thin. Loneliness is a call for connection to reach out to people. Your reactions tell you about what needs attention. You are not a prisoner to them.

So I like to say that all of your emotions are valid. Not all behaviors are acceptable. Feeling something and acting on it are two completely different things. You can feel frustrated with your boss’s decision while still supporting it publicly. You can feel nervous about having a difficult conversation while still having it professionally.

So the goal isn’t to stop feeling. It’s to use feeling as information while choosing your response. And please stop downplaying your capacity. You are psyching yourself out of opportunities simply because you’re afraid of how they will make you feel. Rejected. Sad, fearful. Embarrassed. You can handle your emotions.

They are just energy in your body. They have a beginning, a middle, and an end. You have survived every difficult feeling you have had up until now. So if you have ever felt like you are just at the whim of your emotions, then I want you to take heart in Juan’s story here. When he came into the program, he described every workday as feeling emotionally turbulent.

I think many of you can relate to that. So much so that he was starting to dread going into work. And his emotionality over the 13 weeks, it went from a two to an eight, which is remarkable. He was able to have difficult conversations without the weeks long hang hangover. Now granted this was not an overnight change and for him it was, it was so gradual.

He barely noticed it until he was looking at his results from the program are strive diagnostic that we take inside of the program. And he said, wow, it’s actually been a while since I’ve heard my inner critic and even his wife noticed some of that improvement. So there you have it. Those are our six subtle mental shifts to stay calm, confident, and in control.

So we wanna hear, give me a number in the chat. Which one of these is the biggest aha for you? Type of number.

Let me put those on the screen again. Which one of these is the biggest aha for you? See a lot of fives. Everything is a threat. Six. All I need is a thicker skin. My job is to provide air cover. Amazing. Now, I know you might be thinking right now, all of this sounds great in theory, but how do I actually do these things in the moment?

How do I remember them? More importantly, how do I act on them? Or you may think, okay, I think I can do this, but I know something’s going to happen and I will slip back into my old patterns. Or you may think, I know I need more than just mindset shifts. I need tools. I need scripts. I need step-by-step. And many of you, you have done the things, you have read the books, you have gone to therapy and you may feel like nothing changes and you think maybe I’m just not cut out for bigger and better things.

And that’s not true. It’s because you haven’t had a system, you haven’t had a, an approach that is truly tactical that takes you step by step. That is something that is tailored to your wiring as someone who is both ambitious and sensitive. So I wanna revisit that question from earlier. Earlier. Are you going to keep hoping the circumstances change or are you going to master how you show up when they don’t?

Because the economy will continue to be unpredictable. Everything will continue to be disrupted by ai, your coworkers, your team, your executives. It will all continue to be difficult at times. So the real question here is, are you ready to go beyond survival mode and give your highest performance, whatever that looks like for you under higher and higher pressure?

Because if not now, then I have to ask you when you have to be honest with yourself about that you are tired of being that invisible workhorse. You wanna be the trusted advisor whose ideas are respected. You want to get back two to three hours a week from overthinking so you can do better things with that.

You wanna stop saying yes to everything logging 60 hour weeks. You wanna be able to close your laptop and you’re done. And to do this, you need proven tactics to quiet your mind regardless of the drama that’s happening around you. And so we want to invite you to join us inside of Resilient. As I mentioned earlier, this is our three month coaching program.

We have worked with over 500 sensitive strivers just in this program over the last five years, and it shows you step by step, how to go from feeling riddled by self-doubt, exhausted from people pleasing, trapped in your own cycles of overthinking, to feeling more self-assured, grounded, and in control of your emotions and your reactions at work and our data cohort after cohort, after cohort, our students in this program double their confidence in just 90 days.

You’ve seen the data. We have more to show you, so you know this is real. This is one of the only programs out there that shows you real data like this. And reminder from now until Friday, 11:59 PM. If you enter the code, save 300 at checkout, you can get $300 off. But that expires on Friday. It’s not coming back.

Okay. If you are in and you are joining us, say me in the chat. We wanna celebrate you. We wanna welcome you and Resilient kicks off some information here. Anthony, great to have you, uh, teya, good to have you. Amazing. Resilient kicks off officially September 25th, so a few weeks from now. This is our last cohort of 2025.

We will not be opening the doors again until mid 2026. So by the holidays, ’cause we’ll wrap up before, uh, Christmas hits. So by the, by the holidays, you could be walking into your year-end review with confidence, feeling proud of your accomplishments and showcasing your skills. You could be leaving your desk at 6:00 PM turning your brain off, getting praised for your boss for handling that tricky situation with backbone and empathy.

Being the one who’s requested for high visibility projects because you are now known as the person who’s calm and clear under pressure. Okay, we’re going to get into more about the schedule in just a minute. So a, BM, thank you so much. We will, uh, yes, we’ll get into that in just a second. So, yes, this is not a fully, this is not a self-guided program.

This is a live coaching experience. We’ll get more into that in a moment, but this is not one of those courses that you’ll buy and it’ll sit on a shelf. This is a one of a kind program. Our alumni tell us this all the time, and we’ve created it to give you a comprehensive structured approach, designed specifically for you as a sensitive strive.

We’ve taken science, real world experience, proven strategies, and put them into a streamlined system. So no more spinning your wheels. No more of the one size fits all advice that doesn’t work for your wiring. No more finding yourself in the same cycle over and over and over again. This is your shortcut here if you want to be more confident, more composed, more in control.

So let’s go through how the program works. Alexandra, I’ll answer your question in just one moment here, but going through this alone, it costs you precious time, especially when you’re getting conflicting advice. And I’m sure many of you have found, if you have done anything meaningful in your career or your life, it takes accountability to make real change.

And so that’s what we provide you the different aspects of the program. We have a proven curriculum. We have weekly live coaching opportunities to address your specific challenges. And all of this is grounded. In our community of other like-minded, sensitive strive. And so all of this, these three components together is what makes the difference in getting you real results faster.

So if you added up everything inside of this program, the full value would be over $14,000. But right now, if you join before Friday, September 12th, 1150 9:00 PM Eastern Time, you pay only 2,600. That’s $300 off the main rate. It will go up to the main rate at 12:00 AM on Saturday. Right? And we have payment plans available if you need to spread out the cost.

Again, program begins September 25th. You get access to the classroom right away. We’re gonna walk you through everything that’s included with your enrollment. Put your questions in the chat. Okay. Our alumni frequently report that they have 10 x their investment in this program. As I mentioned, we’ve had people get.

Bonuses that are one point, almost 1.5 times their salary. We’ve had skip level promotions. We’ve had people stepping into the roles that were outside of their, even their wildest dreams, and those internal shifts are priceless, or those external shifts are valuable, but the internal shifts are priceless.

Priceless. Knowing you can handle whatever challenge comes your way, that you can set boundaries without the guilt that you can speak up without second guessing yourself. It’s really hard to place a price tag on some of those things. All right. Let’s get into everything you get inside of the program, starting with the curriculum.

We have taken the biggest challenges you face. We have created a laser-focused, actionable curriculum. These lessons are on demand. They are dripped out every week. A small handful of lessons about. I would say about 40 minutes of lessons to watch per week that you can watch on your own time and schedule.

So if you need to do it at the middle of the night or on the weekends, have at it. You can also easily listen to the lessons and actually all of the recordings on our private podcast. You’ll also get access to our proprietary Start Strive diagnostic. That’s the report you’ve been seeing, that I’ve been sharing data from throughout this presentation.

This tool measures 18 components of your behavior, so you’ll get a snapshot of your unique patterns, what’s causing your overthinking, so you can really get to the root cause, the key lever you need to pull to start seeing results and to start setting goals for the rest of your program. So we take the diagnostic at the beginning, the midpoint, and the end of the program, so you’re able to see actually layered over time.

How are you improving? What’s changing? I see a lot of questions coming in about timing for the program. So our live components are really at the heart of the program. So one live component we have is our live office hours. These are on Tuesdays at 3:00 PM Eastern Time, New York time, and this is where you have the opportunity to get coaching directly from Wendy and myself.

And this is not vague platitudes, like, just be positive. This is 60 minutes of high impact tactical specific coaching. Whether you need to have a tough conversation with your, uh, boss about your workload, you want to have greater presence in a meeting, you’re navigating some sort of career setback. You never have to feel stuck or overthink again.

And what makes these sessions. Really valuable is the real time nature because you’re not just getting theory. We are speaking with you and giving you solutions for your exact personalized situation right now. And I should say that for, for these calls, I am the lead coach on these calls. I attend 95, more or more percent of them.

Um, Wendy may sit in for me if I am traveling or if I am sick for some reason. And all of the calls are recorded. They’re recorded, and they are placed within our classroom and on our private podcast within one business day. Then every Thursday at 3:00 PM Eastern. So Tuesdays and Thursdays, 3:00 PM Eastern Time is when we have our live calls.

We come together for 90 minutes for group discussion to translate your insights from the lessons into action. So, Wendy leads you through these discussions. This is not just rehashing information. We are focused on real world application. So what do these, how will these concepts play out in your real life?

How will you be applying these, what you have learned, uh, what roadblocks might you hit and how can we strategize to help you overcome them? So the magic of this is hearing also from the collective brain trust that you’ll be tapping into being surrounded by fellow sensitive strivers who have similar challenges, but can bring their perspective to the table.

Okay? Type your questions in, uh, Wendy and Sarah will also help me out if I missed any as I’ve been going through. Now, we have those twice weekly live calls, Tuesdays and Thursdays at 3:00 PM Eastern. But we don’t want you to think about the program only being those live calls. We want you to think about us being your real-time support team throughout these 13 weeks, because you also get access to our private community.

And so this is your space to get daily coaching for your specific questions and challenges. And so you can post a question in there. We respond within one business day and you have support between our calls and we are there to celebrate with you, to answer your questions, to share resources. Also, every Friday what’s really powerful is we host a accountability thread.

Uh, so every week you’ll check in about what you have accomplished. And again, going back to our shifts, this may sound simple, but this ritual is about updating your identity, right? Because going, going back to one of those shifts, if we just glide past what’s going well, we’re always gonna continue operating from that insecure baseline.

All right. You will also get access to my beloved Coaching Tools library. This is a treasure trove of 80 different templates, scripts, worksheets, exercises, guides. We have everything from scripts to set, boundaries, uh, uh, strategic questions to ask in meetings, worksheets to help you reframe your thoughts, uh, optimizing your energy throughout the day.

You name it, we have a resource for it. And this is something really special about this program because I hang out with a lot of coaches. I’ve been coaching for over a decade now, and I know I can tell you firsthand that very few, very, very few coaching programs have the extent of this type of support.

Because this is really hard. It is really hard to distill complex ideas down into practical, easy to use tools. And we don’t guard our trade secrets here. We, we give you, we give you all of our best knowledge so you can tap into this. We may give you specific recommendations from the co coaching tools library, but this level of detail and specificity is just something Mo most coaches and programs haven’t developed.

Okay. Uh, I mentioned you also get access to our private podcast, so you can listen to the lessons as well as the recordings on the go. And we do have a digital fillable workbook that can be your place to take notes, to log all of your insights, uh, in the program as well. So I think these words from Simon here really say it all.

She said Resilient has given her practical tools she uses every day. She’s truly more confident than ever before. So I’m gonna pause there for a second. Um, any other questions that came through? Wendy, did you catch anything? Yeah. Um. EK is asking how many will be taught since we need one-on-one interaction with you.

Melody? Yes. So we typically have, I would say, anywhere between, uh, 25 to 35 people in Resilient. And so everything is done in a group format and we, I, I will also say that we have systems on our end to make sure that, uh, we are tracking what each one of you is asking. We know what questions you have brought up during office hours or what posts are going on in the community, and so we have tabs on everyone in the program.

I also see some people are asking if there is lifetime access or continued access after the program is over. Uh, your access to the program materials and the community end in December when the program ends. If you would like to continue and if you would like access to. All of my programs. Uh, then the best way, we do have a continuation program that’s called Lead From Within, which is a higher level mastermind experience.

Did I miss anything else? Uh, a BM just posted a question, uh, I really want to learn this material, but I’m just starting a new role and have overcommitted personally through the rest of the year. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do to grow in the meantime? Well, I wanna challenge your thinking a little, because I know it’s easy to think of this as, oh, I would be adding another commitment to, to my roster, to my time.

But we hear again, again and again that people say, thank God I did this program when I was busiest, because it was exactly when I needed it the most because. When you are busiest is when you’re most susceptible, susceptible to falling into your bad habits, falling into the saying yes to everything and overworking late at night.

And so everything in resilient is meant to save you time. And nothing we give you in the program, like, we’re not going to ask you to journal for two hours. If, if you want and you tell us that’s exactly what you want, we will support you on that and help you. But all of the tools in resilient are meant to be used in the moment to optimize what you’re already doing, not be extra on top of that.

So I, we have seen time and time again, especially if you’re stepping into a new role, that is the perfect time to get coaching because number one, you have to make a good impression. Number two, you are setting precedents that will follow you for the rest of the, the time that you are there. So I just wanna offer that, that shift there.

And listen, I know it is hard to part with any amount of money. I get it. You wanna make sure you are making a good investment in yourself. So I wanted to do some math for you here. Let’s say you have a a hundred thousand dollars salary. Many of you here are probably making that, or some of you may be more.

The average salary increase in 2025 was around 3.7 to 3.9%. Okay? Just that’s about 3,700 to $3,900 more per year. You would more than make back your investment in this entire program if you get a one, one-time increase of the average salary amount. Right? And that’s if it only happens once. Like I said, we regularly have clients who are getting 20% adjustments.

We have people who have, who are skipping roles, who have secured four day work weeks. So this more than pays itself back. So we want you to see why we have hundreds of alumni that have said things like this. And also, um, I do have some slots open for calls this week. So Sarah, if you wouldn’t mind putting it in the chat, um, the link to book a call time with me.

This is a no pressure chat to answer your questions to determine if the program is is right for you. So Sarah will put that in the chat. I have very limited time slots for this, so if you think you want that, if you have some questions about your specific, uh, situation, I’m happy to answer those. Okay.

Alright, so let me answer some more questions that are coming in here or other questions you may have on your mind. When does it start? We officially kick off September 25th, but remember the $300 off is only available through this Friday, September 12th. $300 off goes away after that. Now, I know some of you may be more of a visual person like I am here is the weekly calendar mapped out in an easier way.

So we’re actually gonna start on Friday over here. So on Friday, new lessons open up in the classroom, usually around new time Eastern. You have your time over the weekend and the beginning of the week to watch those. As we said, there’s usually about 40 minutes of content to watch. Each of the videos is very bite-sized.

This isn’t me rambling for an hour, and you have to pick out the one gem. It is very distilled. And then on Tuesdays, 3:00 PM Eastern, we have our 60 minute office hours, uh, where I am coaching you directly on your challenges. And then Thursday we have our discussion calls led by Wendy. Those are 90 minutes where you are debriefing and talking about how you are applying what you have learned from the lessons.

Okay. Any other questions coming in, Sarah or Wendy?

Hmm. Yeah, earlier, um, Kareen had asked, is this program only for those who manage a team? No, absolutely not. We, um, we, I would say our typical person in the program, actually, I have something on this. Let me bring that up so you can see. Do, do, do, do, do.

Okay. Uh, a lot of people will say, I’m not an executive, I don’t lead a team. This program sounds like it’s for all these high powered high achievers that are in the President’s club, and that’s not me. We hear that a lot and, um, that’s actually perfect. Resilient is extremely diverse. We have people that are healthcare providers.

We have doctors, nurses, p physician as assistants. We have academics, university professors, administrators, deans, librarians. We have nonprofit professionals, people working in philanthropies, social services. Um, we have software engineers, brand designers, HR, generalists, VPs of finance, all across the board.

Our average person is mid-level, mid-career, but we have individual contributors. We have some people that are running their own small consulting businesses. For example, we have folks from all over the world, Europe, Australia, north America, Mexico, um, and all of them have in common that they are tired of their sensitivity, feeling like a liability instead of an asset.

Um, so it’s not the title on your LinkedIn that matters. It’s not your industry, your salary that matters. What matters is that you’re ready to stop getting in your own way.

Any other questions that came in?

Uh, let’s see. What other questions can you have or what other questions do you have? I was reading half while I said that. Uh, Ken, see I can’t read and speak at the same time. This is what happens. Uh, Daniella was asking, do you have, uh, pricing for alumni people have that have done resilient before? If that is you, please email us hello@melodywilding.com.

Okay. What other que I’ll go back to my questions here. So when you sign up, uh, we do have payment plans you can choose from. As we mentioned, we have a three month and a six month payment plan. So if you need to spread out the cost, you can. As soon as you sign up, you’ll get a confirmation email from me saying, congratulations, you’re enrolled.

That has some important information in it ahead of our first call. And then you’ll get information to set up your access to our classroom and to our community. Uh, and so once you are in the classroom, you’ll see some initial start here material to go through. You’ll have access to the Coaching tools library, and then we’re soon approaching September 25th of our start date.

And we’ll be in touch with much more information about, uh, how to get started and our first calls and steps there.

What if I need a payment plan? I think I covered this, but uh, if you need a payment plan, uh, we have a three and six month. If you need a different arrangement, please reach out to us. hello@melodywilding.com and we’ll see if we can help. What types of results can I expect? I think you heard a lot of this through the stories we share today through the diagnostic, but here’s some more screenshots of, uh, folks from.

Uh, literally our last cohort, so a couple weeks ago, um, in August. So you were seeing, I applied for a promo position. I’m not 100% ready for feeling less reactive, uh, bolder, calmer, sharper. And to give you an idea here, is there strive diagnostic results. So this is the cohort level results. So you would get an individual snapshot of your specific results, but we also collate them over the cohort.

So you can see here that this dotted line down here is where they started. And this colored line out here is where they ended in just 13 weeks. So at kickoff people reported a 54% level of balance across all these different dimensions. And then 13 weeks later, by the end of the program, they were rating themself at a 76% level of balance.

So pretty remarkable results for, uh, just a few weeks there. Okay, Christina said, what about job seekers? Great question. Yes, we have, uh, many people in the program who are between roles for whatever reason. Some people have voluntarily stepped out. Uh, some people have had caregiving responsibilities that they are tending to right now or transitioning away from that.

Uh, some people have been made redundant or laid off. And, uh, we, I do wanna be very clear, this is not a pure job searching program. So the material we cover is, and the core curriculum, curriculum is not about resumes, interviewing, cover letters, anything like that. So if you’re looking for that, that’s a different program.

But what we do help a lot of our job seekers with is the confidence piece. Is being able to reach out to people that you wanna have an informational, uh, interview with, is dealing with the rejection that comes through the process to keep going, to articulate your value in, um, in interviews, for example.

So yes, we have a lot of job seekers v completion, do you receive a certificate of completion? Yes. If you, uh, if you need a certificate of completion, like for example, let’s, uh, if you need a certificate of completion, yes, we can generate that for you. And that goes hand in hand with this question because many times you may want a certificate of completion because your company is, uh, footing the cost for the program.

If that is you, fantastic. We love it if that is an option available for you. Many companies will cover this under leadership management, professional development budget. We do have materials for asking your employer to sponsor the program. Uh, and so Sarah will put those in the chat. And just keep in mind these materials are geared towards the benefits for the employer.

So they are gained more to or geared more towards the concrete leadership and, and professional skills you will learn like decision making, presence, delegation, uh, conflict resolution. And so what you see on the registration page on my site is more geared towards you as an individual consumer, but the employer materials speak more towards the case for your company.

Uh, Theresa said, have you seen anyone successfully request their employer to sponsor them without having any of the tactics discussed today? Um, I’m not sure exactly what your question means, but I’ll answer it this way. Uh, I would say every cohort we have, I would, I wanna say about 20 to 30% of people who join their employer is covering the cost.

And so we have seen everything. I would say the most common situation is that people pay out of pocket personally and then have the cost reimbursed because you as an individual can move faster than you may be able to get approval from your company. And given that the program is starting on the 25th, time is of the essence, many people tend to go that route.

Um, and so if you, like I said, Sarah will put those materials here in the chat. Um, we. We do. If you need a invoice, for example, a more detailed documentation, we’re happy to help you with that certificate of completion. Anything you need, we’re happy to work with your employer. Like for example, if we need to connect with someone in procurement for payment, we’re happy to do that too.

Just email us if you have a specific situation. Hello, melody wilding.com.

Wendy, anything else? I, I’m, I missed, well, trace also added, I just meant we don’t yet have the skills to ask because we’ll learn them in the program, but that’s what the materials mentioned. Yes. Melody mentioned help you with, they give you the words they, you know, it’s pretty much the script you need to use to ask your employer, so Exactly, exactly.

And consider it. Consider it your first, uh, exercise in, in these skills. Yes. Uh, so if you have a question about your specific situation, as I mentioned, um, I believe I still have calls open. I’m not sure. I haven’t looked, I haven’t looked at how many have been booked, but I have a very small number of slots to have one-on-one conversations about your specific situation.

So this is a 30 minute call where, uh, I’ll ask about your goals. We’ll talk about if the program is the right fit for you, and, uh, get you your spot, get you situated, if it is.

Great. What other questions, what other questions can we answer for you? I do wanna loop back to this one, the busy season because a lot of us have this, this gets back to the, uh, first toxic thought I shared of it’ll be better when Right. Or another form of this is, I’ll wait, I’ll wait until the holidays are over.

I’ll wait until things with the kids settle down. I’ll wait to see what happens with the reorg. And whether you join Resilient or not, I need you to really ask yourself, how many times have you told yourself, I’ll work on this, when only to find yourself saying the same thing a year later, and what happens in the meantime?

So a few reasons why now actually is a great time, even if you are busy, because year end reviews are happening now, right? Your boss is not waiting till your review in December or January or early next year to form opinions about your performance. They’re evaluating every interaction you have this fall.

How you handle those stakeholders, whether you speak up in that strategy meeting, how you respond when someone push, pushes back. And so if you are still getting into overthinking, people pleasing, you’re undermining yourself day by day by day. Q4 is also where the strong performers are revealed. When deadlines get smaller, right?

When budgets get slashed, when everyone’s stress level is hitting the roof, that’s when your true capability shows through. Because can you be the one who, when everyone is panicking, you are calm, you are making decisions quickly, you are actually getting better under the stress. Stress. And as I mentioned earlier, these patterns, they don’t take a holiday break.

I wish they did. I wish they did, right? But they often just are there waiting for us in January when we get back to our desk. And so if you are saying, I can’t add one more thing, this sounds great. I would love to do it. I can’t possibly add one more thing. And I understand you are working 50 plus hours a week, you’ve got kids, you gotta care for your pets.

And somehow you still need to find time to make something to eat in between all of that. So here’s the thing, you may be doing things. Most things ineffectively right now. You might be leaking time and effort in all the wrong places like you are sitting through meetings you don’t need to be in ’cause you are too afraid to decline them.

You’re afraid to give feedback to that underperformer and then you stay late to redo their work. You’re working eight hours over the weekend to move projects forward, but you’re still getting little to nothing done. So that’s why we say this program is designed to help you gain time back because you can make faster judgment calls, you can decline all that unnecessary work.

You can have direct conversations instead tiptoeing around problems.

Okay, everyone asks us all right, fine enough, but how, how much time does this really take? And so we have to be honest, you get out of it what you put into it. But our most successful people, uh, or most successful clients, rather spend about two to three hours per week on their time in the program. And that’s between the calls, watching the lessons, participating in the community.

Now, while we have two calls per week, there is no expectation that you are joining both of them and all of them every single week throughout the program. Life is going to happen. We give you those multiple touch points so that you have options. No one ever has 100% perfect attendance. Wendy can attest to that ’cause she, she helps with taking attendance on all of the calls.

And so that’s why we make it easy for you to listen in through the private podcast and, and still this is the type of program that take what you need. This is not about perfection. This is not about checking the box of just showing up to every call or just watching every single lesson, because that will make me feel like I got a hundred percent a plus.

That’s not where the value come from, comes from the value, comes from figuring out. What do I most need? What strategies match that? And how do I get the support I need from this experience to actually apply and follow through on that? So what we do in this program, like I said, it will save you time in the end because you won’t be overthinking, beating yourself up, saying yes to things you shouldn’t.

Okay. Anything else? Any other questions I can answer? Wendy, anything come in? No, I haven’t seen anything. What other questions can we answer for you? Some people ask, I’d love to get a sense of what I could get I coaching on, on the calls or in the community. So we, uh, the, the types of questions we get spam the gamut.

Gamut because people are asking questions about their personal experiences, which is what makes it. Special and really makes it for such a richer experience. But to give you an idea, I pulled some questions that we had recently from our last cohort. So someone asked, how do I make a good impression in my new role without sacrificing my family time?

Another person asked, I’ve let another team take advantage of me and given them too much flexibility, what do I do now? Another question was, I need to set boundaries with senior leaders who keep asking for extra revisions. How do I say that? Another one. How do I mentally and emotionally prepare to give my team bad news?

Because I know it will upset a lot of people. So that’s just a sample. Yes. Amazing. Okay. We talked about getting your company to pay. Any other questions we can answer for you? What’s on your mind? What’s holding you back? This is your chance. This is your chance to get our brains on your situation. We wanna make sure you have everything you need to make the best decision possible for yourself, especially before Friday, so you can take advantage of that $300 discount.

We don’t want you to miss it. What else can we answer for you? Anything about us? Yeah. EC posted, uh, would most likely add questions during more private sessions, and I totally get that reluctance to share, you know, share what’s going on for yourself and be coached in front of other people. But it is such a rewarding experience.

Other people support you. They, um, relate to you. They can share their own experiences, things that have really worked out there in the real world. So it is a really fantastic experience to get coaching in a group setting. Um, and what we coach on is, is stuff that’s happening at work. This is, it’s just real life stuff at work.

It’s not coaching you on your relationship with your significant other, which would be more private and need to be in a private setting. So hopefully that helps you feel a little bit more comfortable about it. Um, ’cause it, it really is a fantastic experience. Yeah, and what I will say, uh, is a couple things.

Um, everyone does agree to a confidentiality clause when they join the program. And you can share as much or as little as you want about where you work and the nature of your work. Some people are. Like, I work at this company and I do this role. Uh, some people say, I work in this industry and this is my level.

That is totally up to you. Um, and you are also free. You know, we we’re not asking you for specific names of the people you work with. It’s totally fine if you say, I have this colleague, I’ll call him Jeff, or whatever it, it doesn’t matter for our purposes. And you will at the beginning of the program, we also, uh, we spend our first call on orientation, which is also level setting about how everyone can and should be showing up in the program.

So our expectations for all of you to make sure it can be a safe and productive experience for everyone involved. Um, and CU people will always tell us that one of the most valuable parts of the program is. Being around other sensitive strivers because the things you have thought were weird for your entire life.

Like, I didn’t know anybody else was bothered by that or struggled with that. All of a sudden you realize, wow, there are all these other people that get it. And so immediately there’s this sense of trust and safety with the people there. You will immediately start to notice that people open up very readily because we all get it.

No one is judging each other here. Uh, we, we all immediately understand and you will hear what, what’s powerful about office hours and why we actually do resilient in a group format is a couple of reasons. Number one, because you will get so much value and additional coaching from hearing other people’s questions, I guarantee you that yes, your specific players and dynamics.

May be slightly different, but the underlying patterns are exactly the same. You know, having to push back on someone who has more power than you having to deal with a rejection or whatever. These things are standard across so many different work experiences. Just the uh, environment in which you’re in is slightly different.

So you learn a ton through listening to other people’s questions and hearing us coach them. And the other reason we do it in a group format is because the program is meant to be a microcosm of the skills you’re trying to develop. So many of you are trying to work on getting comfortable speaking up and asking for help or raising your hand to ask a question when you feel like you don’t have it all together or you have incomplete information.

And so we are giving you a psychologically secure place to be able to do that and build that skillset. Yeah, when anything you would add to. No, no, that sounds wonderful. Mm-hmm. It’s, you know, really, really, uh, accurate in terms of how we handle office hours and, yeah. And, um, yeah, so I guess the one thing I would add is we have, uh, standards that we ask everybody to follow when, not only when asking questions at office hours, but how to respond to people within the community at office hours.

We, we expect a certain level of, of, uh, I guess, decorum from people in the group, and, and we enforce that. So this is not a place where it’s the wild, wild west, you know? Yeah, yeah. All right. Yeah. Amazing. So, who else is joining us? Type me in the chat. I’m gonna answer this last question from Deanna. So this is a deep one, and thank you Deanna, for, for being brave enough to, to say this.

She said, am I too old to change my ways and rewire my brain? I get it. Who el Who else is thinking this? I know I had, I had always, and actually let me go to this one ’cause I didn’t talk about this. Um, I’ll just share quickly a little bit about my story, which is, I mean, I can talk so intimately to the experiences of being a sensitive striver because I am one.

Yes, I’ve spent 13 plus years doing this work now, but as a sensitive shriver myself, if you’ve read my first book, trust yourself, then you may know this story. But I burned out so badly almost to the point of hospital hospitalization that uh, my hair was falling out. I was having heart palpitations. I literally thought I had to go to the emergency room ’cause I was having a heart attack.

And I had no choice. Like that was my rock bottom moment. I had to use my background as a therapist on myself. And so I created this program that I wish existed when I was drowning in myself, like in my own ways. And so we have, as I said, we’ve been running this pro program for over five years. This upcoming March will be six years, so five and a half years right now.

We’ve had over 500 clients go through it, and you can see here this is the real Strive diagnostic. I just took a screenshot from their last results of this cohort, but you can see right here that. This proves in 13 weeks you can make changes. Of course, I have to legally say we can’t guarantee everything and you, you get out what you put into it.

We do everything we can to give you the tools, the structure, the support to make that possible. But I, I have to be real with you that at the end of the day, we can’t come to your house and force you to do anything, but we show you results like this, this from 54% to 76% level of balance to show you what’s possible, that these are not fixed patterns.

And please do not. Like I said earlier, do not weaponize being a sensitive striver against yourself. Do not say, I, I’m sensitive. I’m doomed to always be this way. No, you, you are sensitive. That is a neutral fact. You can learn to manage yourself differently with that information you have now, and that’s what resilient is all about, really helping you mitigate.

Some of the downsides that come with our trait, but also really capitalize on the upside. Okay. Wendy, any final words? Yeah, and I’d like to kind of address Deanna’s question as well. Yeah, because I was, I was 48 when I burnt out badly at work, and my boss told me that he never wanted to work with me again, and he gave a long list of things that I needed to change.

And I decided then and there that I didn’t like who I was right then, and I wanted to change. And here I am eight years later. A coach, an executive coach. You know, I’m no longer in tech. I am no longer that person that my boss saw all those years ago. And I actually continued working with him for several years and he started referring trouble, uh, you know, people who are about to go on a PIP or who were on a pip, for me to mentor them to help them become better people.

So he referred them to me. It, it’s possible to change. You need to be committed to it. You need to take control and take charge of it. Um, at no point did my, my boss at that time, at no point did he help me through my process. It was up to me and. I am grateful that it was up to me, that I took those reins and took control and made those changes in my life.

So absolutely, it’s possible to change. Yeah. And uh, Wendy, the other day, we’re going through a busy period in the business right now, and I asked Wendy, I was, I said, how are you doing? You’re taking on a lot. Do you, do you still have bandwidth for more? And she said, don’t worry, I take care of myself. I was like, yes, that, that’s right.

So, uh, that is, that is that work in action. So, all right everyone, we will leave things there. We are really excited to see you inside of Resilient. Remember to enter that code, save 300 at registration to get that $300 off. You gotta do that before Friday though. All right. It was such an honor to have you all here with us.

Thank you so much for your time. We’ll talk to you very soon. Take care everybody. Bye everybody.​