To show you what I'm talking about...
Let me tell you the story of my client, Tracy.
Tracy would get extremely defensive at the slightest hint of criticism, whether real or imagined (And there was a lot of imagined criticism happening!).
For example, if someone asked her for a status update, she would assume they were saying she dropped the ball and that her quality of work wasn’t up to par.
Or, when someone would propose a concept, she’d assume they were judging her for not thinking of the idea sooner.
Tracy would have intense emotional reactions, losing the rest of her day to anger spirals. Or she would burst out in tears during conversations because she’d get so emotional.
We gave Tracy tools to regulate her responses and put situations in perspective. We worked on building her inner strength and resilience so she wouldn’t spend the day ruminating.
Now, Tracy is no longer triggered by people and has a higher sense of her own self-worth. Plus, she just had her most positive performance review yet.